What would you do if your boyfriend accused you of pressuring him to marry you?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a while. I made it clear from the beginning that I was saving myself for marriage and he was fine with it. But I've had feelings that I'm torturing him. I feel like he's sexually frustrated. I mean he's been trying to go further whenever we're together and that's just so unlike him. Lately he even went so far as to ask me if I was doing this to pressure him into marriage. That's not true at all and I would never do anything like that. I'm now hurt and don't know what to do. I don't know if he really believes that or he's just trying to make me feel guilty. Sometimes I feel like I'm torturing him and maybe I should just let him go.

Answer 1

Its like this, If you told him from the start that you r saving ure-self for marriage..Than stick to yuur word and dont feel like you are torturing him.If he loves you he will understand and wait for u or tell him to hit the road if he needs it that bad.

Answer 2

I'm not saying what you are doing is wrong, but if he doesn't have the same values as you, you might not be compatible.

Say you are buying a new car. You find the car of your dreams. You like the way it looks, you like sitting in it, its got the options you want. But in all reality, would you buy it without test driving it first? I think a lot of guys feel the same way about relationships that have the opportunity to end up with marriage.

Answer 3

He is trying to get into your pants and you are either being a tease or not appropriately expressing yourself to him. In either case it is not a productive situation for either of you. Either put out or move on, don't see many other options.

Answer 4

tell him to take a hike. nobody should pressure you to do things that you don't want to do