bit low and fed up? anyone else feeling it?? why?
2006-12-21 08:41:39 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
just lost my mum but i am trying to be happy she is watching me
2006-12-21 08:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by miss smidgey 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm feeling good, but I know where you're coming from.
I've been too busy and only just got my tree up. I won't have enough money to get some decorations for the rest of the house if I want to splurge on my family and certainly can't do much for my close friends if I want the bills to be paid in time. I love giving, I love having people to give to, but if I didn't have people to give to, I'd either feel down or go work in a soup kitchen, or go read books to the children in the Cancer ward or something.
Christmas Eve will be a family affair, but Christmas Day will be just me and that can be lonely when one has been washed over with the spend, spend, spend, of Christmas.
Maybe Santa will leave me a special someone under the christmas tree... Must sweep just in case!
Oh, Happy Winter Solstice everyone!
2006-12-21 09:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by NotsoaNonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people try to inject various kinds of meaning into it, eg a day for families, a day to get excited, to get presents, to be merry etc. But bottom line, it is just another day. By giving it so much importance it is easy to feel upset if you think you're not having as good a time as everyone around you seems to be having. Sometimes it helps to step away, see it in perspective.
Also, it is the end of the year and we naturally think about what has come to pass and maybe feel we didnt do all the things we wanted or life isnt going as we planned. My advice is to turn this into something positive for the future. Rather than ruminating on what you havent done this year, focus on how you could improve your life next year and how you could work towards achieving those things you want to achieve.
You are certainly not alone. It is important to reflect but dont allow yourself to wallow in it and dont let it bring you down.
All the best my dear.
2006-12-21 12:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It saddens me to see so many responses here of people feeling sad, lonely, or just blah. This time of year seems to bring out the very best in some people, and the very worst in others. I don't quite understand that, but I try to stay positive myself. For those of you who have no one to be with at all? Find someone even if its doing as one person suggested and going to help at a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen. Maybe helping there will help you feel needed or like you did something that made someone else's Christmas better then what it might have been. Maybe you will meet another volunteer there who is feeling just like you, and you make a new friend. Another good suggestion was that there are always people online. Maybe chat with others who are alone on that day. Its not as great as face to face contact, but your not totally alone either.
I wish you all to find peace in your hearts and minds so that Christmas is not a painful thing, but the pleasant thing it was meant to be.
God Bless you all.....
2006-12-21 17:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by slavetofs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as I am trying not to admit it, I am feeling a little empty, This will be the first Christmas in 20 years that I have not had my daughter to share it with me. SHe's working on a cruise ship in Hawaii - and while I should be happy - school's out for two weeks, I have the whole apartment to myself, I don't have any money and any Christmas gifts to give - I have my faith in God in knowing that it's not about being able to buy the most expensive gifts, but I'm at the point, I don't want to do anything, nor do I want anyone to come over. I just want to stay in bed and watch t.v. I know this, too, shall pass. Also, I'll be 54 on Sunday. (24th) Nobody celebrates their birthday alone anymore do they?
2006-12-21 08:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel that it has crept up way too quickly this year. Part of me is looking forward to it because of my husband and three beautiful children, but another part of me feels low about the commercial side of it all and for some reason I can't put my finger on , Christmas feels a bit different this year.
This question is quite a good one as it illustrates that nobody has the perfect life and Christmas and not everyone is all excited at this time of year. The replys reflect this.
2006-12-21 08:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by TB 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is so weird that someone would ask that today, because I was totally just thinking about that at lunch time today! I am totally not in the Christmas spirit this year, I normally am the type to always have a smile, play the cheesy carols all month and start saying Merry Christmas to people by the middle of December. This year though, I'm just not in the mood to be Merry. I think it is because of my in-laws, they have a habit of taking the fun out of the simplest of things and making everything all about what you give them, do for them, them, them, them, 24/7/365. So I think I'm just a little stressed out, overworked and feeling under appreciated in all my efforts to make people happy. I think if I get out of town and have some quiet time just me and the spouse I'll start feeling alot better. That and I need some sunshine on my face, they say sunshine helps with lifting your mood.
2006-12-21 08:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting melancholly at Christmas is quite normal. It is a special time of the year where families get together with all their indifferences. Singles are lonely. Widows or widowers are sad.
Parents get stressed because they often spend more than they should. It is suppose to be a "Wonderful Time of the Year" as the song goes and when it isn't we feel empty.
Try remembering why we celebrate Christmas or the true meaning of Christmas. He's in the name.
2006-12-21 08:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do. I come from a pretty disfunctional family so as Christmas is the time for "family" it just seems to highlight the fact I don't have one. I tend to make use of it though, instead of trying to get too low. I volunteer at my local homeless shelter and make the most of this time of the year which can be just as lonely for some other more unfortunate people.
I hope you still have a good christmas whatever you do. x
2006-12-21 08:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by beanie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Baby....yes...theres tons of people that do....myself included...but...I have someone to talk to ...a friend...it still dont help but Im trying to find things to do with myself during...dont feel as though your alone...and hey..thats the great thing about the internet,,,there will be others to talk to on here xxxxxxxxxx maybe get together and have a chat with a few to make it easierxxxxx Merry Xmas ..!! You'll be finexxxxxxx there is someone always on here!!!
2006-12-21 08:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm feeling VERY low and fed up.
My 4 and a half yr old daughter is off to her Dads tomorrow, until the 29th.
I have had 'that Christmas magic' feeling for 4 years now, and I feel It's gone knowing she will not be here on Christmas day.
So...
Bah humbug!
But I hope that you cheer up, and enjoy your Christmas.
x
2006-12-21 08:45:22 · answer #11 · answered by Coley 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋