I am a 50 year old female who is always being told that I look about 35yrs old. I volunteer & from the start a young man 29yrs old made it known that he found me attractive. I told him my age,introduced my son who is also a volunteer at the same site, but he spends a lot of time whenever possible in my company. At the xmas party I found myself wanting to take a bite out of him. I am in a 8yr old relationship with a man who I live apart from.My man is away for a month,he is my true soul mate but I can't help but feel tempted. How do I get through this?
2006-12-21 08:35:25 · 20 answers · asked by spoutz1955 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with that.We regret more the things we did not do than things we have done.
He might make you see stars if you know what l mean(in bed)
2006-12-21 09:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by TheMan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you are looking for more because your present relationship doesn't give you enough. How about sitting your soul mate down an seeing how you can reinvigorate/improve your partnership. "Cheating" on him will potentially jeopardise that relationship. On the other hand, maybe he could be more attentive or considerate.
Life is short and you certainly have a right to seek as much joy as possible. But if your partner ever found out that you had gone behind his back it could hurt him deeply.
Good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-12-21 08:45:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is 29! You are 50! One day, you will be lying dying in your bed ok, imagine it! Now would you rather be thinking, I wish I could feel young and alive again and thinking of all the experiences you missed and now regret... OR would you rather think, Goodness, I was so hot at 50 I got to have fantastic sex with a hot guy of 29 and although I feel a bit guilty.... wasn't it fantastic!!
I know which i'd rather have!
2006-12-21 08:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not wrong for you to be attracted to this man.
We are all allowed to be attracted to and attractive for the opposite sex.
But you are in a relationship. And you know yourself, once in a relationship, only hurt and heartache can come of what you are proposing.
Work through your absence from your partner, life happens that way occassionally.
Be ready and loving for him on his return, it's what you would have wanted should you be the one going away for a month.
2006-12-21 08:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're in luck! I'm 29 and searching for a lady love. I don't kiss and tell...really because I've had nothing to tell about for the past 29 years.
2006-12-21 12:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get through what? You're not in prison. It's very simple don't sleep with him and miss out, sleep with him and you'll know but there might be a whole load of nasty consequences. Only you can make the decision as to what to do. Good luck!
2006-12-21 08:39:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not neccessarily wrong (Can you avoid feeling what you feel?)
But probably foolish.
How would you feel if your 'true soul mate' did what you are contemplating.
It does not sound so 'true'
Make up your mind what you want....but remember, you have the choice...no-one is pulling the strings.
Accept your responsibility
2006-12-21 08:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
your on the wrong bus sweetheart so get off at the next stop and just say to yourself how did i get it wrong!!! your man your soul mate as you call him doesn't deserve this does he ?and a wrong decision can give you years of deep regret. so hold back it will work itself out if you let it
2006-12-21 08:45:43 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am 54 my husband is 32, that's the problem i was daft enough to marry him, sex was great but when the lust went so did everything else, nothing in common, if you just want to s hag him go ahead. but don't be as stupid as me,,enjoy
2006-12-21 09:08:14 · answer #9 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, have fun and maybe you will find that your 'soul mate' isn't really your soul mate before you end up in a relationship where you're not happy.
2006-12-21 08:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Beauty&Brains 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋