My Great Grandmother passed away, and her burial service is at 2pm. I work an hour away from home. Am I being greedy if I take a whole day?
2006-12-21 08:34:32 · 22 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-12-21 09:02:48 · update #1
No, most companies will pay you for 3 days- Grievance pay.
2006-12-21 08:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by Montecar3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends.....if it was a close family relative that you are devastated over, then go ahead take the whole full day, take three by legal morning worker's rights and take a week if the company is generous enough to allow it. (talk it over with your manager)
if it was just a friend or a coworker it would not be insensible to take half the day or even the whole day. However if you are going to the funeral just because you briefly knew the person or knew of them and showing up for political reasons (don't laugh it happens) then there is no need for a whole day off. Go to work, take an extended lunch break for the viewing/funeral, then get back into the office.
It all depends on how you feel about it all. But legally, you can request a whole day up to three days....under normal circumstances......and as long as you need to straighten out finances legitimately....under irregular circumstances.
2006-12-21 16:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm a state worker and we fall under civil service of the state and we can take 3 days for immediate family (not too many great-grandmothers current) and 2 days if travel is over a certain mileage. Other than those circumstances, an employee can take their annual/vacation leave. If you feel you need more time, claim FMLA and you have the accumulated leave time use it, that's Federal Law.
2006-12-21 16:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Nemesis: Your worst nightmare 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry about your loss. A day is not greedy! i'd say take two days off. One for the funeral and one for recovery. The people you work for should understand. Tell them that you would like some time alone and wish to take a few days off if thats okay. But if you only wish to persue a day off go for it. But don't take the time off too long you need to keep busy so that you aren't too caught up in sadness. I'm sorry agian.
2006-12-21 16:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by CiNdiEe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most companies (such as mine) pay for a 3-5 day bereavement period depending on company. I took a day off when my not-so-close- grandmother passed away, but didn't need much more. Yes, take a whole day at least for the funeral, but if you need more than 5 seek some counseling. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-21 16:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by -Bibee- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because the woman was a close relative. even if you did not know her that well other family members who may be grieving more at her death Need your support. if only to have a shoulder to weep on or to serve stuff like punch for the mourners who drop by the house after the funeral etc.
if the funeral was for someone like your best Friend it could be considered greedy no matter how much you grieved. because other than your grief you have no responsibilities on that day other than just attending the funeral.
2006-12-21 16:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Syberian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your employers policy on funeral leave. Most times you get 3 days. Regardless of where it is located. If out of state usually you will get travel time. This also depends on the relationship of the deceased. There is no way to be greedy when a loved one dies.
2006-12-21 16:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by hunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness no, you're not being greedy. It's your great grandmother!! Take the day. Take two!
2006-12-21 16:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by susie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Your employer will understand (if they don't, it is time for a new job) to you taking a whole day for the burial service.
You need time to be with your family & greive for your great grandmother.
2006-12-21 16:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with your employer. Most large companies, for a relative that close will, will have a guideline for that. Usually it is 2-3 days.
2006-12-21 16:39:49 · answer #10 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly reasonable to take a whole day off, especially if there is traveling involved....i can't imagine you'd be doing much good at work anyway if you're preoccupied with the funeral you are about to attend (or have just attended)....take the day off
2006-12-21 17:44:03 · answer #11 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋