2006-12-21 08:21:47 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really don't think you believe that do you. Thats not the real issue now is it.
You Love him but if he loves someone else then you can't have true love. Love makes you happy, sad, nautious.. It envelopes you and most important.. binds you. Being together is the most important part of what you have. Its not something you can share in the same way with multiple partners. Sex is the celebration of that feeling. Thats why having it with someone you feel for is so much better than casual sex. Many confuse infatuation, lust or sexual need with love but its not even close and your feelings will tell you that if your open to listen.
But why wouldn't you listen. Thats the real problem isn't it. You said he was YOUR boyfriend so I assume you were before her. You do love this man and because you love him so much your willing to bend to consider keeping him. Your willing to cheat your own heart to hold on to an illusion. If he loved you, he wouldn't look at someone else.
Take a step back. Open your eyes. Let him go. If he loves you he will stay with you and tell the other girl its over. He may not. He may not have found his true love. This may just make him realise it as well.
Tell Him..Don't be angry with him or hit him with a flurry of tears. Try and be composed and tell him all of this and tell him how you really feel... with honesty and your head held up but in a loving manner. It will open the door that may make him think or perhaps send him on a better path which is what we wish for those we love. It will also give you the dignity and the back bone not to take second best.. The person that needs your best effort is You.
When the right guy for you finds you or comes back, you will feel a whole let better, stronger...and more loved.
2006-12-21 09:02:45 · answer #1 · answered by vesarious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him... i know it's harsh. But take from some one who has been there. Don't put yourself through that heart ache.. If he truly loves you then he will be back. Trust me. Mine is back and appreciates me even more. Don't get caught up in the fighting over him and all that stuff. It's truly not worth, I know you probably say but I love him. You need to love yourself first. And I know it's the holidays and all but I can not stress it enough there are other guys out there that will love you and treat you better than that. It's disrespect full to you... as a woman to be with you then go be with another woman. Think about that, and think about what you would tell a girlfriend or a little sister. So sorry if I was hard on you..but I've been there stayed in it for 4 years, and when i finally got the strength to get out it was like a brick coming off of my chest. I hope you well in this situation, and I hope you have a great support system to be able to turn to.
2006-12-21 08:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by dani girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look out for yourself in this situation.
If it doesn't bother you that he has another partner then perhaps the three of you can make a go of it. But, I imagine this would be very difficult. Imagine having to always share his time with her...and imagine how complicated Christmas or Birthdays would be. And what if you guys have a kid....it boggles the mind.
If you decide this sort of scenario is not for you then you should tell him that you are not willing to share him and since he isn't man enough to make the right decision; you are dumping him flat.
You don't deserve to be treated like a second banana. He's obviously having his cake - two varieties - and eating it too...why should he change his behavior - he's getting everything he wants. He is the center of attention of two women.
Dump him now.
Put him on line and let me give him a piece of my mind!
2006-12-21 08:26:16 · answer #3 · answered by krinkn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience --- there is no such thing as being in love with two people on equal levels at the same time. You always love one person more. Eitherway, if he is having to choose between you and another woman, you just really don't need that. Whose to say this won't happen again in the near future if he choose you now?
2006-12-21 08:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ilovedhim! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would break it off with him and find someone more loyal. He obviously doesn't know who he wants to be with and that's not fair to you or the other girl. He's leading one of you on and probably sleeping around with other girls in the meantime. Find someone else and let the other girl have him; I'm sure she'll find out the hard way in the end that hes just a player. Meanwhile you'll have moved on and hopefully will be with someone who deserves your attention more then your current boyfriend does.
2006-12-21 08:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how can your boyfriend be in love with another women. That statement is enough to make you know he gots to go.
2006-12-21 08:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by naya w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't need to be included in this. The question is what are you going to do about this? Do you really want to knowingly share him with someone else?
He's selfish and if you want to be with some who is selfish and really don't care about how you and the other woman feels, then go right ahead honey.
2006-12-21 08:25:33 · answer #7 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you want him strictly for yourself then you should have him choose. If you don't mind having another woman in the picture, then be prepared to experience jelousy and maybe even envy.
2006-12-21 08:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by xxbenchxxmarksxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out....she who waits the longest, WINS
In the meantime, be sure to be clear to him that this is NOT a monogamous relationship and you are going to be dating other people.....never hurts to keep looking, there's always an UPGRADE out there, you know how the saying goes, "Too many men, too LITTLE time!"
2006-12-21 08:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a story about triangle love....or watch some good movie about triangle love stories...and do find out some good solution know many Indian, Indian triangle love stories but not Hollywood....so i can not help you to find one...good luck
2006-12-21 08:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by shahzebb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋