I am 26 and I had a relationship with a 32 yrs old a guy for nearly two months and things were perfect. I thought I had found my soulmate, a man to share my life with and he was very upfont about us getting married till one day I found out that he was chatting and emailing nude photos to girls for as long as we were together. Even worse, I also found out that he kept on texting his phantasies to a girl who told me she is actually his girlfriend for the past year and that he also told her he wants to move on with her despite the fact he avoided her since we met. He claimed she was just for sex and that he couldnt break up with her as he didnt want to hurt her. I broke up with him and he still insisted he wants to be the father of my children, that I am the only one he ever loved and wanted to have a family with. he even contacted the other girl to ask her to help him get back with me! I keep on asking myself why did he do it.. did I do the right thing.. did this man ever loved me?
2006-12-21 08:16:19 · 9 answers · asked by Nina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In his twisted mind. Yes he did/do love you. Unfortunately, he has some serious self-esteem issues and he plays these games to me himself feel good. You're grown. Is this the type of man you want to show and tell people that he's your man?
2006-12-21 08:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, THIS IS NOT THE WAY YOU TREAT SOMEONE THAT YOU LOVE. i am so sad to read this! but, you got played. you need to move on. plus, you should give yourself more time (way more than 2 months) to figure out if a guy is your "soulmate". 2 months is not nearly enough time to know someone well enough to trust or be married to. plus, 2 months is just short enough a time for a jerk like this guy to pretend to be real, just so he can get what he wants.
if you show yourself more care and attention, you will definitely be able to avoid this type of thing in the future. there is nothing wrong with looking out for yourself when seeking a mate, nobody deserves to be mistreated. if you are more selective it just may work out for the best. good luck!!
2006-12-21 08:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by marie-pascale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well have loved you, and may still love. Fidelity really only comes into play as an adjunct to other matters. A man can love a woman, and have sex with many women. Women do the same thing, essentially, except they tend not to have sex with more than one partner at a time. The linked article is an interesting perspective on this matter...
2006-12-21 08:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! He sounds like a pig, and he put you in a bad place making you believe he loved you! It happens to the best of us!
It will get better once you find you true love!
2006-12-21 08:22:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no loving someone does not mean hurting them- i am sorry you met a looser but move on- a better man awaits you
2006-12-21 08:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by shannon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would trust your gut feeling. no one can tell completely over the internet.
2006-12-21 08:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your Gut feeling .I agree with another answer......
2006-12-21 08:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing! how could you ever trust him again?!
2006-12-21 08:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by stop it 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm maybe
2006-12-21 08:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Viscount Nelson888 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋