i have a very serious steady relationship with a man for 4 years.I know he really loves me cos although he lives in another city during the week he comes to me as often as he can from 3 to 4 times a week.We live together,he supports me financially,.has opened my own business and always takes me on his trips and holidays.he has even included me in his will!(he doesnt know i know that).Its like were married but not yet.i know for a fact that he sees other girls sometimes for sex and only but if i didnt know it i could never guess cos his feelings only grow strronger for me and getting closer.so i guess not always cheating is bad for the relationship,i think its his personal insecurity and since our relationship isnt affected but is great then i dont care.ehat do u think?
2006-12-21 08:03:11 · 15 answers · asked by sophie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since you asked this question, you know what your answer is. Someone who loves you doesn't fool around with other people at the same time. What you have is lust. Everything you said he does for you sounds like he is just trying to keep you around. Where is the respect?? Do you have any respect for yourself? If so, then why are you allowing yourself to settle for this? I say leave him; you may find emotional consequences later down the road. You don't deserve this. Find someone who truly loves you enough to want only you
2006-12-21 08:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Firefighter1154 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a relationship; what you have is a sugar daddy. If you truly didn't care what others think you wouldn't post this pathetic plea on YA. Grow up and learn to support yourself instead of being a sex toy to someone who obviously just uses you. If you stay with a jerk like this, you deserve the treatment you get. Go whine to someone who might give a damn.
2006-12-21 16:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by Roberta 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has sex with other women he is not in love with you, don't put up with it. When you are truly in love, you don't even think about having affairs. He is using you.
How do you know that there is not another house in the city with another women he takes care of like he does you. Men lead double lives all the time....
2006-12-21 16:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it bothers you, or if you want to ever have a monogomous relationship with this guy, get out of the relationship. He won't change, and you've already established through your actions that it's ok for him to be with other women as well as you. But if you are ok with it, then, fine I guess.
2006-12-21 16:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you, and I would not consider marriage to him. Thats a serious oath that should be between 2 people in true love. He doesnt truly love anyone, not even himself, obviously!
2006-12-21 21:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by greg and mandy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats possibly the biggest crock of blind bullshit Ive ever heard. It's not personal insecurity that messes up relationships, its infidelity, its commitments being violated, its a lack of giving yourself 100% to only one person.....wake up girl, how do you know he's not "totally in love and blah blah blah" with all these other girls? just cuz he buys you stuff doesn't make your relationship stronger.....it makes you his *****!
2006-12-22 10:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Pearl
2006-12-21 16:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A player but he loves me so much? Im sure there are other women who would claim the same thing about "your man"
2006-12-22 08:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, this man is a scoundrel. If you truly love someone you would never cheat on them with anyone for any reason.
2006-12-21 16:13:03 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you don't care then why do you care what other people think? I personally would never stay with anyone who cheated on me but if you're happy being his little concubine then carry on.
2006-12-21 16:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋