am I being played?

Question

I recently started seeing this girl. We get along really well, have great physical chemistry, and really enjoy eachother's company. She says she wants to be my g/f, and I would like that too. However, she never calls or texts- like ever. If I want to speak to her, I have to call, otherwise we'd never see eachother. Do you think she really cares about me, or am I just being picky and insecure? When we're together, it's wonderful- but when we're not, I start to wonder. I know there isn't really enough detail to answer this, but what are your gut reactions?

lol I don't think either of us are what you would call 'old fashioned'...but we're both pretty busy. I'm not so good at this- normally I'm the one who thinks "geez, enough already! You don't have to call all the time!" I'm not used to being on this end and don't want to be too pushy or clingy, you know?

Sue - I gave you thumbs up for being a snot.

Answer 1

You are not being played, that is just the way she is, it is in her personality. She loves you, but she may feel like she would be a burden if she is on your back "all the time."
Just learn to enjoy the moments you two spend together. The good thing is that if she isn't being "too easy" for you, then you got yourself a very fine female specimen, because it tells me that she hasn't been easy for anyone else. God Bless you.

Answer 2

I think it depends on how long you have been seeing eachother. It seems the more time people spend together the more attracted to eachother they become and the more and more time they WANT to spend together. If someone likes you then they make and effort and want to see or be with you. They call every once in a while (maybe not everyday at first) to see how you are doing. Are you giving her mixed signals? Whatever the case you should talk to her and find out what she wants and is thinking and tell her how her actions speak tremendously louder than her words.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like she just has an idea that its up to the man to call.She probably used to be the kind of girl in the past that used to chase men away from her by being too attentive and calling them too much.
Look, if it bothers you that she doesn't seem to make an effort towards you in this way, then just ask her.
Next time you see her say "hey, I just wondered if I can ask you something? " "You seem to really like me and you & I both seem to feel the same about each other but theres just one thing I dont quite understand." Why dont you ever just call me o say hello or to see what I am up to or what ever?"
I am sure there is a simple answer for it.Besides that I am sure once you get it out in the open she will start doing it. SHe probably has just been too afraid of being a pest or something if she does.

Answer 4

You probably need to do some damage control to your expectations first. You really are the victim here, a victim of the information age overload. Every ones got an MP3 player stuck in one ear and a sell phone in the other. If we haven't maxed out your cell phone usage we feel guilty. What you "wonder about" is her time to do other things in life and yes that may not necessarily be you. I would try to relax a little more and enjoy the real human time you have together.

Answer 5

Well, I have a similar problem, but with someone who is my friend. She never calls me, but she only texts me, and we talk online. We are close, and we haven't seen each other in almost 2 years. I'm planing on visiting her next week, but give it time. It'll change. That's how our relationship used to be, but now we're planing to hang out and stuff. Give it some time. Call her more often, and then maybe she'll call you. Maybe she thinks that you don't like to be called or something. If she sees that you call and text her, then maybe she'll get the picture that she can do the same to you. Women and girls are VERY complex. So don't freak!

Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

the bottom line is this...people, men AND women, make time for things that they want..if she NEVER calls or texts you then she's either not ready to settle down (so she's nonverbally letting you know that she's not interested in being serious right now), doesn't like you as much as you like her, or she's seeing other people...i agree with the other poster, try ignoring her and not being so available for a while...i don't necessarily think you're being played, but maybe she's just not that into you...good luck (c:

Answer 7

Maybe she's a traditional thinker who believes that the guy should call the girl. She seems straightforward about wanting to be your girlfriend. You could tell her that you think it's fine for your 'girlfriend' to contact you sometimes too--she should get the hint! You seem to have a good thing going...and it's okay to be alittle insecure about things. I'd continue the relationship. You seem to really like her.

Answer 8

maybe you need to tell he that you would like to speak to her more and ask her to give you a call sometimes when she has free time. Maybe she thinks you are fine with the time that you spend with her now. Let her know that you would like a little more of her time and see how she reacts.

Answer 9

Do you by any chance have a sister or a female cousin? aSK THEM WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE THE GIRL. If you call him youre being pushy and a nag. You want to see him too much. My advice , ask hr if she really wants to be your girlfriend and if she does go for it.

Answer 10

I think she likes feeling needed and wanted by having you call and asking to see her. I'd try telling her to have her call you the next time she's free and wants to get together, see how long it takes her.