I take my three and four year old boys to a play and learn class once a week. We play together for about 50 minutes and then the kids have a snack and play while all the parents go to a separate room and have a little group chat. My three year old will not let me go. He screams bloody murder like he's being tortured. A year ago the now four year old didn't care one way or another but the now three year old still wouldn't let me go. Isn't he a little old for separation anxiety?
2006-12-21 07:46:16 · 12 answers · asked by Mom of Three 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He won't let me go to the parents group.
2006-12-21 07:48:15 · update #1
All kids are different. I am going to assume that you are a stay at home mom and that your kids rarely go to day care or a sitters. That is the case with my 2 kids. My wife is at home with the kids all the time. My 3 year old has terrible seperation problems. We started him going to pre-school twice a week for 3 hours at a time. The first 2 times he sat on the teachers lap and cried the entire time when we dropped him off. He has slowly grown out of that. My daughter is 11 months old and could care less who picks her up as long as she is getting attention. She does however dislike Santa Claus as we just found out.
As for the screaming bloody murder, some of that will be necessary to wean him from you. There was nothing more heart breaking than to leave knowing my son was crying like that, but it had to be done.
2006-12-21 07:57:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffrey H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My youngest is almost 4 and is the EXACT same way. She is an utter angel at times and a complete devil at others. I do the same things you do, except the taps on the rear, i am hoping that consistency in my reactions to her behavior, or my non reactions will help the situation along. I do think it is normal, shes pushing boundaries to see what she can and cannot get away with, some kids are just more persistent then others. If anything I see that as a good trait, persistence in life when you get older is important, and I want to make sure she knows that, but that she also knows that what mom says is what goes.
2016-03-29 02:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step son just turned three. He never suffered from separation anxiety until he was almost three. It was not even with his own parents he had problems letting go of, it was me. I have only been in his life for about 7 months so it seems even stranger that he'd do this with a stranger. Kids are strange,It's hard to figure them out. I've raised 3 boys before this and, they never cared to be left behind. But this little man does not want me out of his sight.
2006-12-21 08:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by pennij 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety can happen at any age if the child has never been properly socialized or if the child is naturally clingy to you.
Reassure him that you're only going to be in the other room for a few minutes. Say "Yumm! That snack looks good! Well mommy is going into the other room for a few minutes..I"ll see you when I get back" and then just leave. Make it quick--don't sit there forever reassuring him or talking to him, just say "see you later" and leave. He might get upset, but after a few times of doing this he'll realize that when you say "see you later" you mean it.
2006-12-21 07:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
hunni, thats normal for some. often when i take my little girl to nursery there are 4 year olds that are the same, normally all boys too, i think girls tend to be that little bit more independant. keep at it, he will grow out of it hun. when the times comes for nursery school, it will be hard, but your best bet is to just give him a cuddle, reassure him and leave him hun, i can guarantee that it wont take too long for him to settle and once in there without you, more often than not, he will stop crying very quickly. if he doesnt, the teachers wont leave him to get into a state and will call you. try not to feel like you have to force him to be away from you, itll all happen in his own time hun.
2006-12-21 07:59:21 · answer #5 · answered by fanlight 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
does he react this way in other situations where you are separated from him? if so, it may be signifying separation anxiety (talk to your GP about getting help). If he doesn't react this way in other situations, maybe there is something about this situation that he fears. Try and get him to open up and talk to you about it. Also, ask for your four-year-olds input about what happens when you leave.
2006-12-21 07:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by adangerousidea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All kids are different. My 4 yr old is soo clingy but but my 20 month old always wonders off on his own.
2006-12-21 07:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
well many children are like this its wrong behavior but it just shows there attached you'll just have to train him 2 not be attached its OK for them to love u but if he screams just because u leave a room u need to talk to him
2006-12-21 08:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by Celestine K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he's practices manipulation and wins.
Screaming like this takes to forms. Extreme pain and coping beyond his skills, or manipulation and wanting attention.
Don't fall for it, -like you've done for so many months. Be firm and consistent and let him know who's boss.
You'll be doing both you and him a favor. It might not seem like it now, - but be strong for your kid's sake.
2006-12-21 07:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by MK6 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
He's got you right where he wants you - wrapped around his little finger. Watch that t.v. show Super Nanny to get some helpful suggestions.
2006-12-21 07:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Me, Myself & I 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋