my husband is dying of cancer?

Question

I removed my two posts I had before. I want to thank the ones that were sincere. I believe in prayer and I hope you will all continue praying for me and my daughter. Oh, and yes my husband is dying of Cancer. I am at home watching him sleep, sometimes it just gets to be too much. You come out to a site like this (brainless site) and it is a relief sometimes. Why are some of you so cruel?

Thanks to the sincere ones. I realized the camcorder question was stupid. That is why I took it off. I did not have the heart to read all the hateful stuff coming at me. I will check the pawn shops when I get out to see if I can find one there. Anyone know what a good brand camcorder is, and it must be affordable VERY AFFORDABLE. Thanks so much.

Answer 1

Dear one, I will pray for you and your family. I to am dealing with my husband having cancer. He was diagnosed March 9Th 06 with stage IIIB Hodgkin's lymphoma. After eight months of chemo we were told on Dec. 11th that his tumors only shrunk 50% and they should have shrunk more. He was started on a new and heavier chemo the 14th of Dec. and just had his second dose yesterday. I cry alot!!!!!! As I'm sure you do. I have a 13 year old son who is clinging to his dad right now. We had to deal with loosing my father Oct. 28th and now this is just to much for my son. My husband was sent a card yesterday and I hope this will help you as much as it did us, The scripture in the care said "I WILL RESTORE HEALTH UNTO THEE SAITH THE LORD". Just remember the first two words, "I WILL". I wish you the best of luck and WE can get through what we are dealing with.

Answer 2

I live my life knowing that a lot of people in the world are total jerks. And for some strange reason, they live a long time. Still, you can't help but think that there are still a lot of good people, too. A lot of people flock here to really answer questions. Still, when there is good, there is evil. They balance out each other. I wish that we could all be good and live in harmony...
But sadly, that can't be. Some people were born with nothing. Rather than work hard to achieve their dreams, they sit around all day complaining. Instead of raising themselves up, they push others down. From their perspective, they feel higher. But they are no higher than before.
Others are sadists. They think that cruel jokes are funny. But they're not. They are imbalanced and unstable. They don't realize that, just because their boat is being rocked, that they shouldn't rock others.
Sadly...
I can still see the light in this world. To look at the hearts of all the people, you can see light. The lights of hope and love. Sadly, the good die young for a strange reason.

Answer 3

I thought you wanted a camcorder. Yes people can be so mean sometimes, they think that either a post is a joke (sometimes it is), or since they are anonymous and are really cruel because of that. Or they are suspicious that the question is fake and they respond with hositility. I offered you my condolences before, I hope that you can get through this all right. I can't imagine what you are going through, that is so tough! At least you can spend your days with him. Some people are just insensitive or immature and never had to go through any thing hard in their llfe.

I'm sorry to hear about this, I feel bad for you and your husband.

Answer 4

In my walk with cancer I have come across two types of people. Angels and *******. It is as simple as that. I hope you have a good support system close to you. I cannot even begin to understand what you are going through, but I hope the number of angels around you outweigh the number of *******. Peace to you and your family and I will say a prayer after I post this for you.

Answer 5

As far as camcorder affordability goes, even if you find a good deal, just be sure that you can get a battery for it if you have to, and the kind of tape it takes, if any. An inexpensive digital one might be your best bet, especially since you could burn the movies to a DVD for more long-lasting storage.

Answer 6

My courageous friend, I don't know why some of us are so cruel. Lack of compassion, immaturity, just plain meaness. I don't know. But it doesn't matter. What matters is your family.

I encourage you and your daughter to tell your husband how much you love him and what having him in your lives has meant to you both. If there's anything to forgive or forget, do it now so you'll have no regrets later. Now this may sound strange, but when all else has been said, tell your husband that it's okay for him to die, he can go. Tell him that you and his daughter will make it through this.

If he's still able to talk, talk about dying, ask him if he's afraid of it, reassure him that he will not die alone. If you are able to be there at the precise moment of death, hold his hand, cry, tell him you love him and will always love him. If you are religious pray to God to receive His child's soul into His care. Even if he is unable to speak, he will hear you and your words, your voice will be a great comfort and joy to him. It is possible that he will have Cheyne-Stokes respirations and then slip into a coma. This will tell you that death is near. His breathing may ease toward the end. One long breath in and one breath out. Then he'll be at peace and removed from his suffering.

My heart goes out to you and your daughter at this time of your inimaginable pain. I hope you've spoken at great length to her about death and dying and that she's had an opportunity to express her own feelings about her father's illness and dying. I've lost so much of my own family, I understand what you're going through. If ever there is anything, anything at all, that I may do for you, please don't hesitate to contact me. I'm at [e-mail] and I'll be here for you. And I pray for you all.

Answer 7

My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer March 20th went thru radiation, chemo, gamma knife procedure, and took a drug called tarceva. He passed June 6th. I wish I could still watch him sleep. I am so sorry for him and your family. It is very very hard. You have to stay strong for your daughter, that is the reason I am still here. I promised him I would take care of our kids, but it is a very hard promise to keep. I will be thinking of all of you, sending you good thoughts. Hang in there.

Answer 8

There are a lot of cruel , immature people on this thread, skip over them and read only those of us who care about humanity, and have compassion for one another . Keep strong for him and your children and especially yourself . There is no easy way to deal with it , but please do not let the ignorant ones get you down . There are many of us good people in the world who care.
All the best , take care , my heart and prayers are with you .

Sincerely,

Answer 9

I just think that such people have never come across Cancer in their lives. If they had, they'd realize that it's nothing to make fun of. They are lucky, and ignorant. The worst kind...
All my best wishes go out to you and your daughter. I'll say a prayer for your husband.

Answer 10

My heart goes out to you and your family - at this time of the year it is very upsetting. My husband died of cancer three weeks ago - he was only ill for a short time. I feel so lost without him but I have three children with families and they have been such a great support to me. I am sure your family will give you all the help and support you need. I will pray for you and your husband.