My girlfriend and i fell out and i missed her loads and loads and now that we are back together i feel that its a hassle to see her . i really love her .WHY do i feel like this ?
2006-12-21 07:38:33 · 26 answers · asked by bob a builder 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im going through the same thing right now, and Im here to tell you. getting back together never feels the same way it did before the breakup. I bet you feel like "here we go again".
2006-12-21 07:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by cloud10muzik 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry that happens to the best of us, you probably need another girlfriend, because in other words you just spend most of the time that you have with her unhappy. I understand that you love her, but maybe you might want to tell her how you feel because obviously something about her is bothering you, if she does not want to stop the behavior that is infuriating you, you might consider being with someone that you miss when she is away and also happy when they are present.
2006-12-21 08:46:51 · answer #2 · answered by Halal Pig Ok in Islam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it's not her you're missing...you're just feeling lonely & missing having someone around. If she could be replaced you wouldn't miss her at all. If after going out with other girls you felt that you still pined for her & no-one else would do then I'd say you're in love with her, I think you're just missing having female company or any company for that fact....You're in fact "using" her but you don't realise whats happening. Broaden your friends & get out & meet other people.....Only if no-one else could make you forget this Lady would I say you actually felt anything real for her. She's become a habit that's all. A comfort zone.
Get out of your comfort zone & take risks....
2006-12-21 07:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because you have lost that beautiful thing which is called "Trust" and your paranoia of falling apart again is playing its part. Love is all about trust and if you really love her as mauch as much you claim then you need to forget the past and trust her. Who knows she feels the same way.
2006-12-21 07:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, well i dont think you love her anymore.. you might be just trying to persaude yourself into thinking you love her because you cant seem to find a reason for not loving her.. i think when she was away, you missed feeling loved and cared for.. or maybe it was just the fact that you were single and lonely.. has she changed while you guys were apart? do you not see her the same way you had when you first met? i think you just need to follow your heart and dont let your thoughts get in the way..
2006-12-21 07:42:56 · answer #5 · answered by agnnes kiim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because when someone is gone, we have a nicer, more idealized version of them in our minds. We focus on why we miss them instead of the day to day stuff that bothered us when we were together.
If you want to be with her, make it a point to really think about her good attributes and what you love about her. Be kind to her and it may make the whole relationship better.
2006-12-21 07:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just answered yoiur own question. You love her so much that even when you cant stand her when shes around,then When shes gone you'll miss her like crazy.
2006-12-21 07:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u figure this out let me know cuz i b feeling the same way at times about my bf and i really love him when hes gone im so lonely and miserable but when we r together he gets on my last nerve it seems what to do
2006-12-21 07:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you love her, but only as a friend.
I imagine that you can talk to her about anything, & that you enjoy being in her company, but I think to you that is not enough.
I think you owe to yourself to either remain just friends, or if that is not possible, you need to make a clean break & move on.
2006-12-21 07:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Kingbee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is safe for you. Go out and take a risk with the unknown. The change will do you both good. Move on.
2006-12-21 07:41:32 · answer #10 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋