i want to know whether I should keep getting pissed off and upset about this. I have only really had one other big relationship so I dont really have much to base things on. Even though my boyfriend is constantly sayin how gorgeous I am and how much he loves me, he is extremely blatant about lookin at other girls and also commenting on things which I feel are irrelevant and pointless to say cus they upset me.for example we are talkin about his mates girlfriend and he says she's lovely and has a cute little ***. this is an example of a typical comment which occur all the time. please dont just reply saying simply 'dump him' or 'talk to him about it'. I have already tried talkin bout it but he gets mad sayin that i shouldnt care cus im all he wants. anyone else relate to this, and boys, do you say these comments to your gf's? thanks
2006-12-21 07:38:21 · 11 answers · asked by missytrist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is his way. If you cannot take comments like those then he is not right for you
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2006-12-25 03:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blokes eyes wander all the time, I do that myself, but discreetly. There's no harm in it, if something or someone is beautiful then you can hardly blame someone for appreciating that fact. If he looked at the Mona Lisa would you be annoyed? If he's blatant about it that's another matter altogether, plus those kind of comments are extremely innappropriate and disrespectful. It sounds to me like he doesn't respect you and doesn't care what you think, he sees women as useful tools, that's all. Either that or he's just an emotional retard and is too dumb to live. Whichever it is, dump his ***. He'll come running but hold your ground, get yourself a decent bloke! I have single sound mates I can introduce you too!
2006-12-21 07:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men/boys are not very tactful and don't know when to keep comments to themselves. You'll have to learn to deal with it but you can give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time you see a hot guy, make a comment about him. Do this several times, I bet he gets jealous or upset with you. Then tell him, that's how you make me feel when you say those things. He will either stop or he won't. If he doesn't, then you keep doing it too.
2006-12-21 07:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its human nature, and hes not going to stop doing it. Even if he stops saying these things he is still going to be thinking them, and wouldnt you rather know what hes thinking. He chose you and he wants you, let him look. Its harmless as long as hes not doing anything. My mom always said the menu is always open, doesnt mean you have to order. And if hes got everything he wants then just enjoy being with him. He wouldnt be with you if he wanted something more from you. Its the reason skin magazines are so popular. They have what they want at home, but the fantasy is always alive. Dont worry, just believe in him and that he loves you and wants only you.
2006-12-21 07:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kirsty H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm ok..... well he just wants a reaction out of you, he wants to see you get jealous, and say something to him about it,
and by the sounds of it, you are playin right into his hands, so i suggest you just ignore his childish comments.. OR play him at his own game, maybe comment on one of his friends.. like mm your mate has got a great *** or something to that effect, or even just say it as you walk past someone you dont even know, see what he has to say about that.!! coz at the end of the day,if he really means that you are the only girl he wants?? then he should respect you more, respect your wishes not to make those kind of comments that he knows upset you......
good luck...
2006-12-21 07:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys will look at other women, and love you with 100% of their hearts. It sounds weird, but it is true.
The happiest married couple that i know, the guy looks at other women ALL THE TIME. He watches porn, and goes out to strip clubs often. The girl knows that he is hers. she is 100% confident that though he loves to look at women (as guys do), she understands that she still owns his heart. When she wants something from him, she takes it because she has this confidence.
Part of it is your problem, I think. He is poking at your insecurity by making those comments; and while yes, it is pretty dick for him to do that all the time, he's also pointing out to you that you don't completely trust him.
2006-12-21 07:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at least he is saying these things in front of you and not behind your back. Perhaps this is part of his personality and as such is just a playful way of looking at others. Why worry or get pissed about this as long as he is being loyal and honest with you.
2006-12-21 07:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us men don't understand why women are so fussed about us looking at other women, were goin' to find other women attractive also.....it's not because he doesn't love you or wants to upset you Hun....he just wants to keep his manliness in check and reaffirm that by being a little cheeky and ladish (British word means big boy on campus)....... don't take it personally please don't leave him or even consider it.....he's just a man and I say this from the bottom of my heart I just want to be happy and so do you and so does he.....he looks at other women because he feels attractive in himself and sure of his sexuality....Seems like he really cares and I do for my girl...but I look at what I can have and what I can't sometimes....not because I want to leave her but just because I can....I feel attractive and I want to see if other women do to...understand Hun please....
2006-12-21 08:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to get a rise out of you; the next time he says something like that, say "yeah, she does" or, if he is commenting on a stranger, say "Want me to get her number for you?" This will drive him batty, and teach him that you dont like his smarmy comments. Try it and see!!
2006-12-21 07:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to be more opened minded with him. Accept him the way he is.
2006-12-21 07:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by streetsmart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋