I dislike my face, my body, my life, my past experiences, my parents and most of my extended family. I dislike who I am. I dislike my baby's father and almost all the people that I know. I feel depressed, stupid, ugly and worthless. I try to better myself but I keep running into obstacles that prevent me from advancing in life. I feel that I'm cursed and will NEVER be happy.
The only thing that I care about is my 2 yr old. But I'm a terrible mother. Sometimes I neglect her and don't take care of her properly. Sometimes I scream at her when she does something I don't like. Other times, my love for her is so intense that I can't stop hugging and kissing her. I'm too poor to afford counseling or meds. I live in Chicago.
2006-12-21 07:38:10 · 12 answers · asked by eoqurlk f 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes, you need help. Why don't you try meditation which can stabilize your mind and body? I suggest you learn some Buddhist meditation because it will give you peace and serenity. Just try it !!!
2006-12-21 07:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor or not, there is help for you! Especially since you have a child. There are "family services" that will help you cope with being a single mom, and give you support- including financial. As for counseling the county/state may help you out with that, too. There are places you can go to get mental health help, for free! All you have to do is call around. Or look up on the internet for your county and see what services they offer.
It's NOT hopeless! Everyone has bad days, and some of us have a lot of them. But you are an important person, and valued. Don't give up.
If you don't like the people in your life, try to talk to them about it. If that's not an option, then cut them out of your life, because you don't need that stress right now! As for being stupid, I'm sure you're not, since you obviously know how to work a computer, and you have good grammar.... if you feel that dumb, then try to do something about it, like take a class with financial aid- some colleges will even take care of your kid while you go!
Only you can control how your life goes, even though it might seem like everything is against you right now. So make some positive changes, get some help, and make some goals for improving your situation.
2006-12-21 07:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by frustratedB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are that unhappy and feel that badly, you need to talk to someone about it. If you do not have the funds, try using your local social services: Here is a link that could help you find someone to talk to. Call a help line. Have them guide you to some affordable help.
http://chicago.about.com/gi/dynamic/offsite.htm?site=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.communityresources.net%2F
There might be some support groups (free or close to it) that can help you get back on your feet. If the only thing you care about is your 2 year old, you may want to concentrate on being the best mother you can and target support groups that help with that.
If you want to change everything all at once, it will be too overwhelming and you are setting yourself up to fail. Try to take baby steps, pick one thing a day (a little thing that you have the power to change). Feel stupid? Try to learn one thing a day (go to the library) Feel like you are screaming at your little one (which we all do by the way, you are not alone) ? Try to catch yourself before you yell just one time.
There are a lot of resources out there that we don't know about until we start looking.
Good Luck
2006-12-21 07:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can afford councilling..its called a free mental health clinic..There are ways to talk to you about the unhappiness thatt you have but I think that if you look under public and free clinics you will find a free therapist..They are in every town and in chicago I bet there is one in your neighborhood..first of all remember this..If you have a roof over your head, can eat, and are healthy ,you have a lot to be thankful for..If you just relax and there are many techniques for doing this.. search stress releivers on the internet you can find them..Think of the positive things in your life and the most important thing ,think of that child..i went through hell for 23 years with an abusive spouse because I didn't want to leave and leave my children not to know their father because I never had a dad..I know what is like.If you don't think of yourself think of the child..I did and im not sorry and I went through so much but it was worth it.. Call the free clinic I guarentee there is one nearby they will help you .. for sure..
2006-12-22 15:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by Will T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have post partum depression. I dont know much about it but i do know that its not uncommon, and it can last for years. there are places you can go, unfortunatly i dont know any of them. But I am positive finding one in Chicago will be easy, its a big city. If you wont do it for you, do it for your daughter. Finding help ASAP will be the best thing for both of you. Im sure you are a beautiful, strong person, you just need some help right now. Its always ok to get help! I will do some research and try to find a free clinic you can go to.
2006-12-21 08:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl-slow down! have you talked at all with anyone about this, do you have familly else where? somtimes its good to just get different surroundings, your baby doesnt need this, you are a good Mom you just havnt found yourself yet and your taking on another life, im not a shrink by any means but I really feel you, I am going to pray for you, and you can write me if you like. Su
2006-12-21 08:13:25 · answer #6 · answered by shashonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one that can help yourself. you are really good at finding reasons why you can't do things, you need to build your skills at looking for things that are positive. You are suffering from clinical depression, you must get help for that. There are county hospitals that can treat you for little or nothing. There are mental health agencies all over the country that will see you based on what you can afford to pay...there are solutions to your problems, but you have to put out the effort to go find them, no one can do it for you. You owe it to yourself and to your child.
2006-12-21 07:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you check with your local clinic they can point you into the right direction. It sounds like you have post partum depression which sometimes takes a while to set in after you have a baby. Hang in there!
2006-12-21 07:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by n3rdluvr2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you need to start loving yourself,...you are under exteme stress, and unfortunately, this is what causes people to child abuse their kids...not that you want to, but it just happens because you snap...i know how it is to hate yourself...but there is one thing that you can do, and that is to pray to the Lord, to help you be happy..and live for God and Jesus....then you will find that looks, money, family, etc...can be forgiven and not an issue..and you will find it in your heart to be kinder to your daughter, before you do something you regret..I am going to pray for you, I am worried about you...Please, pray to the Lord to guide you, and ask HIM to help you find yourself darling....God Bless in Jesus' name.
2006-12-21 09:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend you to go with a counselor or phsicologist. or if not you can set a appointment with Dr. Laura Schlessinger or you can call her (too bad I do not have her number ) but My mom buys her books. Maybe you can buy them. They cost $13.95
2006-12-21 07:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by !@#$%&**&%$#@! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋