I want him to be the first for every thing ,kiss,( sex ) every thing , I have been dateing him for about 4 months ,he is taking me to a ball on friday, I wanted to save my first kiss for some one who is speaical and I belive he is the one , and it is not only that ,i want to sleep with him too , I love him but I don't know If I should , He told me he is ready ,he is waiting for me to be ,I am about 20 years old so is he ,he is not pushing me in to it ,but do you think I should wait ,I mean he is every thing I think i dreamed for ,I just do not want to give a way my virgainty ,but then I do ,any help ? should I plain to sleep with him on friday ? I know if I ask for help ,i may not be ready , so I am just asking should I ????
2006-12-21 07:23:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Prez say do things when you FEEL ABSOLUTELY ready. Prez say a kiss not that big a deal. Prez say sex however big big deal. Prez say if you wait til almost 20, you wait longer. Prez say 4 months not long enough to know if this guy gonna be it. Prez say maybe kiss. prez say maybe feely feely. Prez say no sex. Prez better know!
LOL at Angel Eve... Prez say girl say she "about" 20. Prez say 16 year old girl think they are close to 20. Prez say they want to grow up too fast.
2006-12-21 07:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If don't feel ready, then don't have intercourse - there are a lot of other things you can do that is intimate and satisfying that won't cost you your virginity.
He sounds great, and you're both old enough, but waiting is better than just jumping in the sack and banging away for your first time.
I know to many women who regret their first times... for what ever reason, they 'decided' that this was the guy they wanted to lose their virginity with, and later really regretted the choice later.
Have a good, romantic time at the ball. Kiss, fool around, maybe go a bit further if you're comfortable... and if it feels right - go all the way... but don't plan for it... sex should happen naturally.
And since he's ok with waiting... there's no pressure on you.
Best wishes.
-dh
2006-12-21 15:29:31 · answer #2 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
losing your viginity should be with a very special person and once it is gone you cannot retrieve it. If you have been with him for 4 months and he has not pushed you to have sex you have a pretty great guy there....he hasnt even expected you to kiss him. If you feel that you love him and he is the one then maybe it is time. You never can tell if he will be around forever but it is not a safe bet with anyone really. If you feel the time is right on Friday then I wish you luck.
2006-12-21 15:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by Stacy H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not like your 13 or 14 years old and feeling that this is the one. But at 20 years old your instincts should be very good and if your instincts are telling you that this is the one then it might be fine. But if you are having doubts being honest with yourself then perhaps you need to wait a little longer yet.
2006-12-21 15:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is the one, then go for it. I personally don't hold alot of weight on saving yourself, because I think it's important you "test drive the goods" before "purchasing". But, if this is important to you, you may want to reconsider. If he IS the one, and if saving yourself is extremely important to you, and if he respects you completely, then wait. You must ask yourself how you will feel if you go through with it and your relationship doesn't last. You won't be a bad person, but will you feel bad about yourself? Only you can answer that question.
2006-12-21 15:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. You shouldn't do anything you're not ready for. #1, it should all come naturally, when you plan it out like this, it's going to make it a lot less meaningful to the both of you. #2, just you asking us here online kind of sends off the red flag that you're questioning it all yourself. Just wait, and let whatever happens, happen.
2006-12-21 15:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at how you feel about him, and how he feels about you. Then look at how you will feel about giving it up after you do it. If you think you will be still feel the same way then it wont be a problem, but if you feel any different then you should think about this long and hard. No one else can tell you what to do, but you should think about what you want. If you really want to wait, don't give that up, because it will only make it that much more special when you do give it up. Remember, its all about you.
2006-12-21 15:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by kingpenguin_2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are unsure. If he is the right guy for you and is willing to wait. Then what will it hurt for him to wait longer? Better you be sure now then to regret it later on. Also if you think you can be as open with him as to have sex with him which is to let him see you in your most private moment. Would it not be a stretch to think you can talk with him about your concerns?
2006-12-21 15:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by Codae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong with kissing him. You think hes good enough for you now cause your dating him..but I would wait for the sex. Sex is meant for marriage, cause you can think your in love and after you have sex you realize I didnt really want him for he realizes that. Go ahead and plan on kissing him, but make boundaries on what you will and wont do.
2006-12-21 15:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Laurel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't plan it. if you really want it to happen then let it happen at the right time. like when you are alone and every part of you feels like you can't stand to wait any longer. Just know that after it happens every thing will change. I doubt that your 20 and nevered been kissed it doesn't happen
2006-12-21 15:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by masterzuaba 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋