I fell for a girl I worked with. Problem being she was married. Aside from that she was damn near everything I have ever been looking for. Nothing ever happend or even came close to happening. At one point I had asked what was wrong with me from a girls perspective. At first she just kept telling me nothing. After a few tries, she finally told me that me opening doors, always paying, and doing everything to make her happy had me and her been together would make me not a challenge. It bothered me for months untill I finally brought it up again. She said the same thing again and she said if her husband acted that way she would have broke up with him. It kinda hurt as I had thought that was one of the reasons she had told me she had a crush on me. At first she told me she thought it was sexy. Its kind of disheartening knowing that there are girls out there that think like that and her being the exact type of girl I look for. So is that actually something girls think and should I change?
2006-12-21 07:18:51 · 5 answers · asked by Codae 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is a fine line in being polite and a kiss ***. Have a backbone and dont be afraid to offend someone. You can be polite but also be spontaneous. Be a little bit on the nervy or gutsy side...dont be to conservative.
2006-12-21 07:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ?? I cant believe she said that. I will not date a guy who wont open the door and pay for things. I think that's a prerequisite to dating. What she probably meant to say is that your just too nice all together. There are guys that are so nice or like a girl so much that they fall all over themselves to do EVERYTHING for the girl. Its hard to explain what I mean. I'm not saying you shouldn't do things for her but its the manner in which you do it. There always needs to be a fine line between being nice and being the carpet she wipes her shoes on.
2006-12-21 15:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being polite is always appreciated. You sound like a guy who doesn't want to play by the "hard to get rules". Good for you. One thing I can add, if being overly polite and well mannered is your main way you impress her, then you can be concerned. If you want to impress, be confident, passionate, know where you are going and want in life, have a plan, and show her you have a life outside of her. Let her now you think she is the most beautiful girl in the world. These things along with good manners will keep her wanting you. I have seen guys who date my daughter who are "apologetically polite"...they're always looking to do things for others, but my daughter (and me) will also judge you by what you do for yourself and your future too. Good luck!
2006-12-21 15:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a turn-off for me right away. Women like to be treated like equals, not like we need special treatment because we're women. Keep it 50-50 and everybody's happy.
2006-12-21 20:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, some of us actually like guys to be sweet and polite towards us. It shows they care!
2006-12-21 15:22:34 · answer #5 · answered by funbobbi22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋