My boyfriend lives half way around the world from me. He is there for work. He won't be able to come back for a year. We only dated for couple weeks before he had to leave. For those who went/is going through the same kind of situation, how do you keep it together? We talk online a lot, but I'm still afraid that a year apart from each other would part us. :'( !!
2006-12-21 07:11:32 · 10 answers · asked by Ellie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He plans to come back to me as soon as possible, and he is always saying how lucky he feels to have me in his life and that he doesnt want to lose me. I dont want to lose him either. We've dated a couple weeks and its been almost 2 months after he left. We do love each other a lot, still. I'm just worried...
2006-12-21 08:19:45 · update #1
and yes we do talk to each other a lot still, every day. :)
2006-12-21 08:22:45 · update #2
Ellie,
If it is meant to be it will be. Remember everything happens for a reason. My husband and I have been married 6 years however we have been in your situation. We actually met online 7 years ago and for 9 months we talked just online and the phone from time to time. We were like 12 hours away from each other and it was so hard being away from each other but we were both determined to be in the relationship. So just remember if its meant to be it will be. Stay strong.
2006-12-21 07:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Marina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible for it to work. My husband and I lived far away from each other when we first got together. We held it together by talking on the phone a lot and building an emotional relationship which is easier to do without the distraction of physical contact, (sex.) I think you should try it for a while and if you are really unhappy tell him...say that you do care, but you need physical connections and at this time he can't give it to you. Then when he comes home try again with him then. If you do do that make sure you don't get seriously involved with anyone else if you have the intention of getting back with the first guy when he comes home. If you really love him try to stay with him, if not, find someone else. But it can work if you want it too! Good luck!
2006-12-21 07:21:16 · answer #2 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other than it will work out!! My sisters husband is in the air force and he was gone her whole pregnancy right now he is in Italy I'm not saying its easy its defiantly something that you would have to work at!! But it can work out!! If your really serious about the relationship why don't you try moving over to where ever he is if its at all possible!! (that depends on how long he's going to be there) Good luck
2006-12-21 07:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Groover_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in one for a year and a half now.It is alot of work but if you both are committed to each other then it will work.Also there has to be alot of trust on both parts.Do you get to talk on the phone much or send each other cards.Talk to him and ask him what he thinks about everything.Good luck.
2006-12-21 07:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for him. You've only been dating for a couple of weeks! Now you have to wait for a YEAR before he returns. It's just not balanced out. Besides, he might find someone else while you're waiting for him.
2006-12-21 07:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went though the same thing. my bf then went to iraq, he left in november of 05 and got sick over seas and had to come home but didnt get home till october of 06 so he was almost gone for a year. it was hard for me but i waited for him and now were getting married. but we talked on the phone a lot, but when he was in iraq i got to talk to him maybe once a day. so just talk every day and if its ment to be then you two will be ok.
2006-12-21 07:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by avery's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love him that much you would wait that year until he comes back from his work and if you feel that you should move on with out him then well do it.
2006-12-21 07:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Phat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a lot of time,...and a man has his needs :) sorry but wont work. be realistic. or i might be completely wrong and both of you love each other and a year will be nothin....NOT. :) move on dont stress when he comes back you start all over if both of u are single doubt it
2006-12-21 07:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was meant to be, he will come back to you. Just make sure you are happy in anyway you can. I will however date other people in the mean time.
2006-12-21 07:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by ism 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good way to have a side relationship
2006-12-21 07:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋