Are all the professional and good looking guys who know how to treat a lady getting lesser every single day?? Thats what I think!! I always end up with guys who are losers. I have been with my bf for 10 months now but his habits has still not changed. I am more of an independent and polish kinda lady, successful too. Whereas he does not even have a good career (but that did not matter). I kept giving him chances. I changed him from his poor dressing style to his haircut to his communication style. But he still has those old habits. Goofing around, flirting, checking on girls (yeah I mean checking all the girls butt) even when he is with me. The list goes on and on. Everytime I break up with him, he would not let go. He comes by my work waiting hours, coming by the house, txt msging, phone calls, vm etc etc. HOW DO YOU GET A GUY TO UNDERSTAND ITS OVER!!!!??? Should I just go and find someone else to prove I don't wanna be with him anymore?
2006-12-21 07:05:10 · 16 answers · asked by miss_curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you had to change him THAT much, he wasn't for you anyway. Good that you're looking to get out. Here's a great way. 1) Make sure you aren't leading him on. 2) Start dating other guys...maybe even get sexual with one and be sure he knows it.
As long as he's not psycho, this should make him get the picture. If he is psycho, report his azz to the police for harrassment.
2006-12-21 07:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by CPT Jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you quit sending mixed messages. If you don't want to be with the guy, then put some distance between you. Next time you pick out a guy to date, make sure he's who you want him to be at the time you start dating and not someone that you think has potential to change in order to suit you. It doesn't work that way. I think you want to date someone else to make him jealous and/or get his attention as opposed to proving to him that you don't want him anymore. If you didn't want him anymore you still wouldn't be hanging on, complaining about him, and acting so helpless. You probably think you're his life line, b/c you created him, but he hasn't shown you that he is trustworthy. Too bad you couldn't custom build him with that quality. Find someone you actually like the next time and move on.
2006-12-21 07:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you should have learned by now that you can't change a man anymore than one can change you. Since you have broken up with him however many times, it is reasonable to expect that to him this break-up won't be any different than the past ones when you have gotten together. Ignore him. Go out with female & male friends & eventually you will find someone to date & he'll get tired of trying to get in touch with you. If not & you feel he's stalking you get a restraining order.
Based upon your info you seem to be a very controlling person who can't seem to accept people for who they are & want to change them to meet your specifications. Loosen up & enjoy men for who they are. These men may not be losers except in your mind.
Also, men will always check out other women even when they're with you. Its the nature of the beast; it makes me smile.
2006-12-21 07:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some good guys left out there. You shouldnt have to settle or try and change someone so that they are what you want to have. If he wants to be with you, you should come first. He should be checking you out more.
I would tell him that you need time apart and your sick and tired of his selfish habits. If he wants to have a relationship with you he should make it apparent and treat you they way you want to be treated. Good luck there are guys out there that want to have what your looking for.
2006-12-21 07:18:00 · answer #4 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you better a get restraining order against him. Coming to your work is no no. Tell him to get lose forever. It seems to me that he is trying to use you. You deserve so much better.
2006-12-21 07:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by ism 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to put your foot down and show him you're serious that it's over. If you keep taking him back with his stupid little game, then you'll always be with him.
Ignore messages and phone calls, do not reply to any.
2006-12-21 07:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sweet and honest guy that is good looking. i am also single with no kids. here my email address if you want to get to know a great guy.. efrain78223@yahoo.com
2006-12-21 07:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, tell him you got gonnerea from his best friend! Then take someone else with you and hang all over them while you know he can see you!
2006-12-21 07:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth
2006-12-21 07:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by diana s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him if he is checking other girls out he isn't that interested in you.
2006-12-21 07:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋