We've tried a bunch of things. Showing him pictures of people who have been seriously injured, told real life stories, and showed him a jail cell. He just shrugs it off. I know teenagers think their invincible but how do we get it through his thick skull that fighting is not cool before he gets hurt?
2006-12-21 07:02:31 · 13 answers · asked by Jenna G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He gets more than enough attention so I don't think that's the problem. If anything, he's spoiled by his mother and grandparents.
He's bigger than most kids his own age and I'm pretty sure he's a bully. I can't prove it though, just this gut feeling.
2006-12-21 07:24:37 · update #1
there is nothing you can do if he has his mind set that this is what he wants right now...... He will get a good beating soon that will change his mind... and all you can do is be there for him when this happens... but don't baby him let him know that he is old enough to choose to fight then he is old enough to suffer the pain........
If he still feels that fighting is cool when this happens and it will then maybe you and his father need to talk about sending him to a boot camp or something....... When love doesn't work then you have to use the Tough love approach Good Luck
2006-12-21 07:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, he needs hands on experience
What about virtual reality software?
But you can work to deter it from the other angle too- why is he fighting? No matter how much you try to get him to stop fighting, the "seeds" are still inside him to act that way and he will continue.
Find ways to change his reasoning that fighting is the best solution. He will argue with you every step of the way if he knows what you are trying to do so you might want to do it disguised as something else.
The other thing you could try is role models of people that don't fight. Check with the public relations dept of his favorite sports team and see if you could get somebody to talk to him. Obviously, the player has to be someone that's good and does not get involved in brawls himself.
2006-12-21 07:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 13 year old son, i can understand you want to be protective of him, but he is 13 now.
some times the best life lessions are those he learns himself, keep telling him its wrong, sooner or later he will pick on someone who wont take it and he will get the snot kicked out of him, then he will realise thats it not cool.
i know thats not the best way, but he isnt a little baby anymore, a good kicking will proberly set him straght!
keep punishing him as well, grounding etc and once he picks on someone else too big for him i think it will sink in at last.
just make sure he doesnt turn into a bully
o heres something else, try channeling his fighting and anger, try signing him up to a boxing club or a martial art, their abotu controled fighting, it might be just what he needs
2006-12-21 08:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he fighting? Is it for attention? Is he angry? Does he carry his feelings on his shoulder? Does he have an anxiety disorder? Street fighters are often nervous and anxious people.
Why is he not afraid of being hurt? Has he been hurt? Does he have older brothers who beat on him?
A boxing gym or karate class will teach self discipline about fighting.
2006-12-21 07:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 13:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by slagle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds harsh, but I agree with the previous answers. Eventually someone will hurt him pretty bad and then it will change. Of course if he is hurting people that don't want to fight with him then he needs to be taken out of that situation. Last resort.....military school
2006-12-21 07:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by sputmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think theonly thing you can do is let someone who is bigger than him beat the crap out of him. he thinks he's right and you're wrong, so the only way to show him is to let him feel it first hand. my fiance's little brother used to be like that. till my fiance and his dad beat him up. cuz one day he's gonna run into someone that doesn't care if he walks away from it or not
2006-12-21 07:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him into boxing or kickboxing. once he gets beat a few times(in a controlled setting)he won't think it is cool. it will also keep him from getting hurt too bad. come to the realization that teens think they are smarter than you. it sometimes takes creative thoughts to deal with them.
2006-12-21 07:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by J Q Public 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my first answer is that he needs to get beat up by someone bigger so i say gett him into wresling so he gets beat up he proubly wont turn down the offer becuse he like beating people up and if hes bigger then everyone.
2006-12-21 09:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by mmhhm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being a boy!
Try to get him into something else like skateboarding or something.
2006-12-21 07:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by angelmwilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋