I've been dating this girl for like 8 months now, and she is awesome and we get along great. I'm usually not the clingy type b/c I've had one of those on me before. Someone that is totally dependent on you. That's hard so I don't want to be that person. So anyway, she has been on this trip for a week now (it's a 9 day trip) and I've been just pissy and sad the whole time pretty much and bored. I get upset with her when she can only talk for a couple mins b/c they're busy on the trip but I try not to let her know, although I seem to ask her if she's mad at me often. I know she would never cheat on me so that hasn't been a worry at all.
The only thing I can think of to explain it is that I'm transfering jobs, so I am didn't have to work this week and everyone else I know is also working and I'm just bored to death and she is usually who I hang out with now.
Anybody felt this way or something?
2006-12-21 07:01:34 · 16 answers · asked by Still Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shoudn't fell down infact think of an opportunity to increase the love in between you
2006-12-21 07:03:14 · answer #1 · answered by wizard 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, although a long time ago, with two girls. I was scared that she would be away from me long enough that she would have time to think about things and realize she liked being away from me and want to break up when she got back, or that during her trip she would meet someone that made her feel like she wanted to date other people. I was actually right on one of them. It is a natural insecurity, but you can't let it effect how you interact with her. Let her enjoy her vacation and be glad for her that she has the opportunity to get away. Have a dozen roses for her the first time you see her when she gets back and tell her how much you missed her while she was gone and how happy you are that she is back.
While she is gone, spend time with friends and try to have fun. Whatever you do, don't tell her you were depressed while she was gone. She will see this as possessive and it could make her question how mentally stable you are.
2006-12-21 07:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're bored, you miss her, she's having a great time and you're stuck at home. Not too hard to figure out.
Stop asking her if she's mad at you! That and the whiny "Do you still like me?" is one of the most annoying things guys can say. Are you actually trying to get her to break up with you? Because stuff like that is a great way.
Just tell her you miss her and you're glad she's having fun. Ask her questions about her trip. If you're going to be whiny and irritable, shut up and let her do the talking. You only have her on the phone for a few minutes, it shouldn't be that hard to control yourself.
2006-12-21 07:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by EQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out and hang out w/your friends! Dont get upset w/her cause she is on vacation and doesnt have time to talk. Just think of how happy you guys are going to be when you see each other in 2 days! You need to find something else to do besides sit around and wait for her. You sound like you dont have much self confidence and you are being a clingy perons. STOP IT!!! You will drive her away being like that, coming from someone who couldnt go to the bathroom w/o being asked where I was going! We are divorced now. Think about it!
2006-12-21 07:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by mare122870 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, definitely. Anytime my boyfriend or I go out of town, I experience the same exact thing that you are experiencing right now. Even if I'm the one on vacation! I'm trying to get better at it though - my advice is to go do something by yourself, like take a walk or see a movie. Don't 'count down' the days until she's coming home, just try to enjoy your alone time. Maybe plan a nice dinner for her the day she returns?
2006-12-21 07:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by Delvala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got a real crush on this gal. If you have all that spare time on your hands, why not check with your library to see if they need some voluntary help of some kind. That would occupy you and do a good deed at the same time. And keep counting the days for your big'un to get back home.
2006-12-21 07:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by george dumdum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I havent, but this is the time you should be hanging out with your buddies. Spend time with your family. You are not being fair to her because she can only talk a few minutes, its not her fault that you are home bored and not taking this time to enjoy other things besides her.
2006-12-21 07:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love her and you cant stand being with out her? Is she your best friend? Go do something fun while she is gone. Buy her something fun! Write her a letter and tell her how much she means to you and how much you missed her.
2006-12-21 07:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by lucky_one_happy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yes. You can feel that way because you really like and enjoy being around the person. That particular person is the one who understands what you say even if sometimes it makes no sense. I understand what your feeling:(
2006-12-21 07:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by ER88 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude you're just bored. Imagine if you were busy, would you feel this way? Probably not. Go find something to occupy your mind, you'll feel better.
2006-12-21 07:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋