My girlfriend of 2 years hardly ever shows romance or a desire for sex. Not that she doesn't want to but I am the one that usually initiates it. I do the roses, candles, dinner, music...whatever! In almost all the times she usually makes no indication that she has climaxed or reached orgasim. When I asked her she says sometimes she was "good" or had a "little one", when talking about it later she also says women don't come that often during sex. I am not complaining, have been able to perform for quick or long times, take my time with foreplay, but would really like to please her and know it/see it in the moment. We have talked about this but she is still pretty quiet. Any suggestions from both men and women? We are active couple times a month.
2006-12-21 06:55:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A woman having an orgasm is a complicated thing.They need emotional this and physical that,etc.
My wife has a vein that pulsates on the left side of her forehead, I can look at it and tell when,if and how intense. Her sister can only achieve through oral. I once dated a girl that could only climax when she was on top. Your girl is probably not being honest with you about having a "little one", because she is afraid she will hurt your feelings or insult your manhood.
I have also dated women that I could not bring to climax regardless of how hard I tried.
As far as women not climaxing that often during sex, that is a load of bullsh@t. If I don't take care of my lady's needs in the bed she will pull out her toy and handle it herself.
2006-12-21 07:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
During the foreplay, try asking her...Do you like this? Is it better like this or like this? It may be a case of it feels good, but not just right yet. Try changing your pace, angle, pressure...not alot, just a little. That was the case with my ex...it felt great, but just wasnt gettin me there....I asked him to apply a little more pressure and slow down just alittle, and it sent me over the edge. And you can always introduce a small vibrating toy or something.
2006-12-21 07:01:22 · answer #2 · answered by onearkansasmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is your roadblock here. I intitate sex with my hubby as often as he sometimes more. We talk about what we like and what we want and would like to try. I rarely do not climax when I don't I still enjoy it. Your problem may be your skills but your bigger problem is lack of communication. You need to get her to talk find out what she likes and doesn't like. You two need to talk openly and honestly if you cant you have a bigger problem than just good sex!
2006-12-21 07:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a fact that most women dont have orgasms till they are in their mid 30's, so it may just feel good right now, and she is thinking that is an orgasm when in reality she probably hasnt climaxed. This has NOTHING to do with you. Just keep doing what you are doing- I wish my husband would initiate it with me more often!
2006-12-21 06:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask her to "show" you what feels good. It's ok to talk during sex! Also, ask if she has EVER had an orgasm and if she has, what gets here "there."
2006-12-21 06:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like she does not know her own body.Until she does forget it.I know has a woman that you have to experience pleasure for yourself first.It really works.Good luck.
2006-12-21 06:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by llgarrett69 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe she is just really shy...ask her what feels good....and then do it!
2006-12-21 06:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by cute as a button!.♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋