my grandmother pasted in october and i don't know what to do please help
2006-12-21 06:40:49 · 12 answers · asked by pablos girl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My boyfriend's dad passed away in July. I don't know how the holidays will affect him. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in dealing with this, and life must go on. I am sorry for your loss. Remember the holidays are the same as any other day, but I know its going to be hard at family get-togethers when your grandmother isn't there. Talk about her if it makes you feel better. Sometimes it helps to do that because its not like you must forget your loved one. I hope this helps.
2006-12-21 06:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by ÜFÖ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do, cry, laugh and try to enjoy there memory.I know easier said than done, My dad died Dec 15, 1987. IT was a sad Christmas to say the least. Even though now I have a family of my own I will never forget that day. How we all just sat around and really weren't to enthuised about presents,, but what we really wanted was not gifts,, get the idea. Time heals all wounds, thats whats going to ease the pain, in the meantime,, if you have to cry,,, cry. If you have talked with fam/friends,, do it. Thats all you can do. Praying is good too!!! It will all be ok!! TRUST me, I have been where you are and it does get better!! Be sure to give much thanks for what you have and don't complain about what you don't have now!!!! Have a blessed Christmas and DON'T Worry (worry wastes the time you have now).
2006-12-21 14:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by funrnilovelucy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remember your Grandmother throughout the holiday season... Find joy recalling the things she liked best about being with you and about the season. Keep your spirits up by keeping the memory of her spirit alive within yourself and share the burden of this loss with others who have also suffered her absence.
Living without a lost loved one can be as much of a joy as it is a sorrow and it is within your power to decide how the balance will fall. When you show that you respect and love the memory of your lost ancestor, you do yourself and her memory an honer. Take it upon yourself to become the vault of her life's good work and the moderator of her unfortunate shortcomings. Because you know of her, speak of her in fond words, forgive her for her faults and in essence make yourself the keeper of her living spirit and the guardian of her love. Forgive yourself for any debt you may owe her and accept the duty of keeping her memory nearby and warmly alive throughout your lifetime.
Have a wonderful Holiday with the spirit of your Grandmother forever nearby.
((((( r u randy? )))))
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2006-12-21 15:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi My cousin passed away on Thanksgiving Night. this will be my first Chrsitmas with out him. I plan on lighting a candle in his memory. then I amgoing to do the things he would do. Just so i can feel he's still here.
I'm so sorry for your loss. it's hard when the Holidays come around. this time of year is rough enough without the pain of losing someone you Love. Just do what you can to get through. if you need to talk email me. ok.
2006-12-21 14:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure your grandmother would want you to be happy and celebrate Christmas. Maybe you dont have to go all out with gifts and parties but at least put a tree up and have Christmas dinner and go to church. Your grandmother would love to know you did that. Peace be with you.
2006-12-21 14:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
must be hard. Sounds as if you loved her, remember her well. Don't let it depress you, remember the good times, especialy the times you may have had with past holidays.
Is there anyone to be comforted with. is there a friend a loved one you can talk to that will listen.
Yes it will be hard, a loved one is hard to be missed.
2006-12-21 14:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by readthekjv1611@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what ever seems right to you. Celebrate quietly or festively. Be alone or with others. What you do or don't do is not the test. How you were when she was alive is the important thing. If you have good memories, enjoy them!
2006-12-21 14:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by sam00913 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 7, my mother died the day after Christmas.
Every year, on December 26th, I do things that she would have done with me, and remember her as warmly and vividly as I can.
Just because they're gone physically doesn't mean they're gone at heart.
- 16 yo Pagan
2006-12-21 14:45:06 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Myrkr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone I know and care about dies, I celebrate their life instead of crying over their death. Death is dark enough as it is without wallowing in depression, sadness, and self-pity, but life is worth celebrating even those that are ended. It's just up to those of us who are left to remember them and keep their spirit alive.
2006-12-21 14:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Deus Maxwell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad passed away last year I am going to light a candle on christmas eve for his memory
2006-12-21 14:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsey m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋