I was dating a guy for two months, we were sleeping together and to me it felt like we were falling in love. But he told me he doesn't see love in the future and just wants to keep it casual. So I ended it. Did I do the right thing? Do some guys just take a little longer to come around? If I hadn't pressured him for an exclusive r/ship would he have wanted one with me eventually? Thanks!!!
2006-12-21 06:18:46 · 22 answers · asked by bellyyo62 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey, trust me, from a former dog... still doggin it... you did the absolutely right thing.
You were strong and you trusted your instincts... you should be damn proud of yourself.
Best of all, you kept your self respect.
2006-12-21 06:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by jons_plan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing...most don't come around...they just keep using you as a booty call until something "better" in their eyes comes along, then they will dump you.
You have been true to yourself and your feelings and he should respect and admire that, much more so that if you just kept putting out like a doormat, knowing that is not what you want but settling for less.
If it is meant to be, he will come back, if not then be thankful that you only invested 2 months in the relationship and are now free to find someone who wants the same thing you do in a relationship.
2006-12-21 14:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. I have learned that you should always listen to what a guy tells you. If he was even considering a relationship with you, he would have kept that door open. At least was honest enough to admit that he was only looking for casual sex and not lead you on.
2006-12-21 14:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's had his chance and he's chosen not to be serious with you. Move on. Either he's not ready for love or you're not the right one for him. If he hasn't come around after two months of sex, he's not going to. Sounds like he's just using you as a booty call. RUN AWAY!
2006-12-21 14:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's either there or it isn't and if after 2 mos he wants nothing but casual sex then he wasn't dating you, you were a booty call. If that is what suits you then fine good for you. If you want a relationship then you should find someone else.
2006-12-21 14:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex with someone, without love before the sex, you are sending out a signal yourself that you are into it for the sex.
Seems logical to me that you would attract someone who doesn't love you.
You did the right thing, but you should have done the right thing from the start.
2006-12-21 14:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Health_Fairy_Raven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing by breaking it off with him. You should just move on and find someone that wants a real relationship with you!
2006-12-21 14:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ending it is the right thing. If you really want to find a man who loves you, have a relationship without sex first. Everyone loves sex.
2006-12-21 14:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing by ending the relationship. He was only interested in sex and you would have been hurt over and over again. Good for you to have ended it!!!
2006-12-21 14:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely did the right thing!! It was good that he was honest enough to tell you that he didn't see a future with you. You can't waste your life hoping that he'll change his mind one day...you deserve to have someone that wants you as much as you want them.
2006-12-21 14:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by adangerousidea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋