I've been raped, abused (mentally, emotionally, and physically), used, lied to, cheated on, and hurt by almost all my relationships that not only am I afraid to be with a man again, but I feel I'm no longer attracted to them (don't desire them). Is this possible to feel like this?
2006-12-21 06:08:29 · 15 answers · asked by kelly825782003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes because you have been through some horrible experiences and from the sounds of it you are not over them yet. Talk to someone about this and let out all your pain and hurt. Do not keep it inside because it will only fester like a wound. Maybe after some time you will feel like dating again.
2006-12-21 06:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go through hard times its very possible to feel that way. I have had times where I couldn't even look at a man without feeling sick to my stomach. I have had days where I wished all men would just die and go away. I feel they bring nothing to better this world. Their mind works in ways that I will never understand and I dont really find much value in men. This comes from years of dealing with them. Now I have changed my view on what men are supposed to mean in my life because sure as hell they will NEVER measure up to what I need or want. They now are things to be used for my purpose and then set aside. If you look at them in this manner it will be much easier to live with them.
2006-12-21 06:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that you have been thru a lot, so it's understandable that you would have feelings like that.
Is is possible to not be attracted anymore? Probably, with maybe hormone treatments I guess, but why do that to yourself, when there is still a lot of life there to be discovered. You have just been around the wrong kind of guy.
I wish you well!
2006-12-21 06:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Dan821 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you obviously do. Is it possible you always pick the same kind of men, and subconsciously feel like you deserve to be treated badly? You need to stay "alone" for awhile and work on being good to yourself. Happiness comes from within.
2006-12-21 06:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! but, not all men are the same. You can't blame one asshole for everything. I am so sorry all those things have happened to you. Work on yourself....put yourself first for a while....once you do that. You know you are worth it and start being picky. Set your standards high and get to know a guy before you jump in to anything.
2006-12-21 06:15:56 · answer #5 · answered by chicago gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like that, then it must be possible. you should take some time for yourself, without a relationship, and maybe your feelings will change, and if they don't then maybe thats just how you are soposed to feel. you should see a councler and get help from someone professional it may help with thoes feelings.
2006-12-21 06:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by ohmeggosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not possible to not like men any more. but i understand what ur saying .u just scared that the same thing will happen to u . u just don't want to be hurt and feel lonly any more.
2006-12-21 06:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by vavane d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would imagine that you would feel that way at first. but maybe a speacil guy will come along that will change that. in the mean time take care of yourself. you don't need a man for that.
2006-12-21 06:11:44 · answer #8 · answered by bluskijewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. you need to go to a councilor.you havent mentioned your age. but that isnt a good thing for you. you will need male companionship sometime again in your life. merry christmas.
2006-12-21 06:11:44 · answer #9 · answered by chrystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if all those things had happened to me it would be possible.
2006-12-21 06:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋