I hav left him so mant times and he keeps beinging that up in my face, wondering if I slept qith someone or other stuff, why do i keep going back
2006-12-21 05:54:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you go back?
Is it because you feel like you can't get anyone else?
Is it because you know what to expect form him?
Is it because you lie being abused?
You need to think about the answers to those questions.
If you're going to leave, don't go back this time. Don't even talk about it with him. Have no contact with him when you leave. Just go.
As long as you're talking to him about it, he's confident, you'll come back. That's how it's worked every other time. Don't give him any more power over you. Just get yourself together and leave.
Your not a bad person for loving him. You're just in a bad situation because of it. It's a situation only YOU HAVE THE POWER to change.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 06:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by peter n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although you seem to realize that going back to him is the wrong thing to do, you dont seem to realize how not to go back. You need to see that any man that abuses you in any way, physical or mental, doesnt love you. NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY!!! Would you ever think about hurting someone you trully love? Ofcourse not, it would be like hurting yourself. So what you have to do now is realize that you are worth so much more that what he makes you out to, that you deserve someone that will love you and never abuse you, and you will find someone like that as long as you give yourself the opportunity to meet new people...
2006-12-21 14:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be alot of reasons depending on you.
I was once in a abusive relationship so based on evaluating myself I found I stayed/went back out of fear and also believing in change. I believed that this man would change and we would work on it. But to no avail I left. The majority of men who abuse women do not change their ways. You also have to look at his and your background this can have alot to do with it as well. In my case, I grew up being abused, in his case he adored his mother who later turned to drugs so he's was looking for that mother he once had and I couldnt give that to him. And come to find out he is really a punk he just knew at one time he could control me becaus I aloowed him to, now that he cant he leaves me alone...... I hope you understand what I am trying to say.
YOU will leave when YOU know your ready. No it's not a wise choice to stay but you can only leave when you find the inner strength to do it and I pray that it is soon for you.
God Bless and feel free to email me if you like.
You have a friend in Pennsylvania
2006-12-21 14:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're self-esteem and common sense have left the building.
You need to take a giant step back and look at where you life is.
If you can manage it get a few sessions with a therapist....you may not be able to restart your life without some help.
2006-12-21 13:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-Esteem. Abusers make you feel like no one else will love you like they do, so we go back.... but there are wonderful guys out there you just need to keep your eyes open and not settle with anyone less than u deserve.
2006-12-21 13:59:33 · answer #5 · answered by luvz2luv_ya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to leave what is familiar. It's hard to get out of old habits. When you are ready to leave or end up dead, it will stop. I'd hate to be ***** here, but he'll start with words and wind up with fists.
2006-12-21 13:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are in love with him...When u are in love u try to fogive them ....even if they abuse you.. Leave the guy and find someone who will treat u with love and care.
2006-12-21 13:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love him. Try to go to counciling with him. Try to do thing fun more often. I wish you luck =)
2006-12-21 13:58:24 · answer #8 · answered by uphemie girl lovin it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you still care for him...believe it or not...the only way you can leave him is when you reach the point in your life that enough is enough...but until you reach that point you will continue to go back to him....
2006-12-21 13:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like cigarettes, drugs, gambling, or alcohol...it's an addiction.
2006-12-21 13:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋