okay, this guy and i dated for a like 2 years and, i fell head over heels for him. and now. he is gay (was then too but i didn't know it) and he has a boyfriend (in the school) he and i are still friends, and i can still tell him everything liek always, but he hasnt told me about his boyfriend and im afraid that if i don't say something to him, ill end up telling other people and i don't want to do that. i really love him, and i know that i have to get over it b/c he is gay, and i am over that but i still care about him and i just want our friendship back to how it was before! do i tell him i know or not?
2006-12-21 05:46:49 · 13 answers · asked by ohmeggosh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s. i don't want to get back with him! i just want to be friends. and i don't know if i should tell him that i know or not, im scared hes not ready to tell me and thats why he hasn't!
2006-12-21 05:54:57 · update #1
tell him. mayb his dieing to tell you but thinks he cant trust you, because you did say that you wanted to tell other people. if you care about him dont spread gossip. highschool is an awful place for people that are a little different so dont ruin his highschool years.
2006-12-21 05:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by gigi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him.
the whole situation would be much better if you both were honest about it.
i woudlnt accuse him though.
that would put him on the offensive.
id mention it in a nice way.
you should tell him you like him and wish it was back to the way it was before.
you will feel a lot better once youve done that.
mayeb hearing him say it himself [that he is gayy and has a bf]
will help you to get over him.
that seems like the best thing to do.
how sure are you that he is gay?
if its not for a fact, it could just be a misunderstanding.
hopefully, and maybe hed go ack out with you.
but you seem sure, so im sure your sources are legit.
well anyways,
hope everything turns out alright.
:]
2006-12-21 05:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sterlinggg. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are his friend, tell him you have no problem, that that won't change how you feel or think about him (as a friend). People shouldn't be embarassed to be gay. Have a long talk, say that you support him. That's probably what he needs right now, support b/c theirs probably going to people that will think ill of it, and he will need a good friend like you to help through the rough time.
2006-12-21 05:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by FairyNice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you have no problem with being gay but hint that you still wanna be with him. Ask him to go bi and say that his gay friend can live with the two of you when you crazy kids go out and get married.
p.s. o yeah and that makes a lotof sense not to want to tell anyone, yet post it all over the internet good one ;-)
2006-12-21 05:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is gay then u can tell him straight unless u still have feelings for him. its kinda hard when u swtich lover back to friendship unless u both had loss memory about ur both past or u both could just 4get about the past and start over again as friends (u know , the guy is gay dosen mean he won't turn back and love woman again~~! )
2006-12-21 05:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 01:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters....he obviously doesn't want you to know. But, why don't you do this? Ask him if he has a bf, and see what he has to say....if he lies to you, tell him that you know he does. But if he doesn't say yes, but doesn't say no either (like he's trying to avoid the question) then just drop the subject, and forget about it.
2006-12-21 05:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already understand that you won't be able to be with him, so that's ok. Just talk to him, have a heart to heart. As long as you don't try to "steal" him away from his "love", then he should understand and maybe things will go back as they were. Best of luck to you.
2006-12-21 05:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
talk to him and be honest about your feelings. Gay guys like honesty.
2006-12-21 05:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Skull F'r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him what you know, if you want real friendship..
2006-12-21 05:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by HappyGoLucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋