okay.. my boyfriend of two months now.. we are very serious relationship. we love eachother till death. he does a form of smoking i dont want to say. do i tell him that i want him to stop? should i say something? ...the smoking makes him happy and takes his pain away cause he has had a bad life. i want him to feel good, even if it is smoking. but it bothers me that hes hurting his body.
what should i do??
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2006-12-21 05:42:53 · 23 answers · asked by answer! this 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I smoke that stuff too, and my boyfriend says he would like for me to stop, but I will do it when im ready. Your boyfriend likes it because its relaxing, and I wish people would stop saying that its harmful, because it really isnt. Let him be, because if he stops, your gonna regret because things could get ugly.
2006-12-21 05:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl some people just need to smoke. it is very thereputic and actually helps with a lot of situations, especially if he is having a hard time. it would be a controlling situation if you tell him to stop for you - especially only after 2 months. i understand you guys are close, but you must have known what you got yourself into at the time and you have to accept him for that, especially if you love him like you say you do. maybe when more time goes by, you can bring it up to him and ask him if he wants you to help him stop. that way you wont be controlling and you can get closer to him at the same time. but people who "smoke" are set on it, and i think you should just love him and accept it until you get more serious (hey, maybe you can even try it sometime!)
2006-12-21 13:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by Laurennnn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all it's illegal and at some point he will get in trouble and you may get in trouble as well. Second, he using his crappy life as an excuse to break the law. He needs counseling and rehab, and you need a slap in the head for making exuses to justify something you know is wrong.
2006-12-21 13:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you feel but dont expect much in return. what you really need to ask yourself is if it effects your relationship, if it is something you can live with or not. if you can live with it then dont worry about it. if you feel that strongly and you cant live with it, then i hate to be the one to tell you this, but there is a good chance your relationship wont last. from my experience, even if a man stops doing something for your bennifit, it is only a matter of time before they start doing it again. if he quits it has to be for him not for you or he will just do it again. good luck hun
2006-12-21 13:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by badbeat1970 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After only 2 months you love each other till death? WOW.
Anyway he will only stop if he wants to.
If you're so much in love you should be able to talk to him about anything....tell him how his smoking makes you feel and ask him to stop.
If he can't or won't you'll have to make a decision.
2006-12-21 13:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well the way you deal with pain is not by forming an addictive habbit which could lead to bad things to the relationship, help him and tell him to get help or get out.
2006-12-21 13:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by andyblair18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say you want him to stay well and that you only want the best for him and that you will leave if he dosen't stop. Guys don't want to lose their girlfriends. You could just leave until he says he will change
2006-12-21 13:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by selinasouthard2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn and walk away it wont get better it will only get worse trust i have been there and it wont get better until he hits rock bottom but you dont want to be there when it happens.The guy I was with ended up living on the streets and eating out the garbage and you dont want to be there
2006-12-21 13:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't been together long enough to start asking him to change his ways. Maybe you can ask him not to smoke so much or just not around you so much
2006-12-21 13:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be like u cut off until u stop smokin.try 2 help him take dat happy stuff away .tell him dat ur worried bout him tell him exactly how u feel
2006-12-21 13:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by Redd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋