Im going away early next yr to Oz and will be gone for a year possibly 2? When i made this decission i split up with my gfriend of 4yrs as i thought it was unfair to carry on our relationship as she at Uni and would have a great time if she single, plus ill be 10000 miles away and would never see her. Now 6 months later we have started going back out, she has slept with someone else in this time-which is a bit of a turn off. Also i dont feel like i have my independence now, she says any decision i make i would have to see what she thinks first. I think i still love her-but not sure if getting back with her is the right thing, and scared to hurt her feelings AGAIN! I just wanna be able to do what i wanna do when i wanna do it, but not to hurt her feelings.
2006-12-21 05:41:46 · 11 answers · asked by simpleiwish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are having doubts then it probably isnt the right decison.
Go to Australia and if you get together when you come back so be it, however, the relationship would probably hit difficult times whilst you are so far apart and the likelihood is that staying faithfull will be hard for both of you.
Do what you think is best.
2006-12-21 05:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by button_mushroom_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being able to do what you what want is basically great. Do u truely still love her after sleeping else where though not your fault or hers but if u are fed up just move on with your life. Do not start a war u can't fight to the end, a real man starts wars and not beg for the end to come. Did she tell u she is broken up with the other guy? how many? for how long? who next? this is a frank opinion, not just point earning from yahoo answers. A phrase would have got me the points but i think i know how u feel.
Again is she going to Oz with you? Make your mind up and move on if you have to. Sometimes doors are shut for others to open naturally. There is no contract signed so do what your heart tells you but think about yourself first without being selfish though.
Independence is priceless especially as you sound she is the domineering type, be free friend and be open.
Good luck.
2006-12-21 05:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kissplus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue here is that she slept with somebody else in a short span youre away from each other yeah? And this will keep on bugging you. It already has otherwise you wont mention it. Its better to hurt her again than continue a relationship with doubt bec it just wont work. Besides, the second break up is not too painful for a girl as long as no other girl is involved. Never return to an EX.
2006-12-21 05:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Two of you sound like a perfect match. You both should be more reponsible for each other more often. You's Two can build a great life together. Everybody makes mistakes and sometimes a jolt makes you realize what you had. Forgive and Forget is my Motto. Love and hard work together is what counts. Freedom is trust.
2006-12-21 06:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Phew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply, I date by five rules:
1. Don't date a cheater, that includes married people
2. Don't date an abusive partner
3. Don't date someone who puts anything above you (eg. drink/ drugs)
4. Don't re-date anyone ( you've broken up for a reason)
5. Don't date for looks
Based on these rules, I'd say it wasn't the right decision.
2006-12-21 06:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by ange_faerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try your hand at an open relationship while you are both away from each other? It doesn't always work, but perhaps this would give you the benefit of both worlds, especially since you seem unsure.
2006-12-21 05:53:50 · answer #6 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she slept with someone else?why does this bother you if it was you who ended the relationship?she,d have a great time if she was single i,ll be 1000 miles away anyway ???im not understanding you, sounds like you want things youre way or not at all.
2006-12-21 05:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by smiler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First u need to think before u do anything, and ask ur self if it is the right decision to make, don't just make them cuz u think it's going to make a person happy, make them cuz it'll make u satisfied, okie-dokie?......don't make any crazy decisions either!!
2006-12-21 05:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by Shay. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are thinking like that then it wasnt the best decision.
tell her now and get it over and done with.
2006-12-21 07:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's certainly not the right spelling of decision
2006-12-21 05:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Troubled Joe(the ghost of) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋