We just broke up, about 3 days ago. My ex girlfriend, who i still care about so much, is really vulnerable under normal circumstances, but now that we've broken up, I'm worried so much about how she's gonna deal with everything.
AAaaaarrghhhhhhh HELP!!!!! I dunno what to do, cos i keep thinking about saying we can get back together, just to make her feel better, even though the relationship was pretty doomed for a long time. I know I'm better off without her, but I care so much about her!!!! NIGHTMARE!!!!!
2006-12-21 05:31:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't get back together just to make her feel better. Maybe you could introduce her to a compatible friend of yours in a while. If you know anyone like that. Good luck!
2006-12-21 05:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you as you seem torn with this situation. You say you still care about her but would only want to get back with her for her well being. This will not be good for her as you will only be confusing her and hurting her more. If you're sincere about her well being you could speak with one of her friends, siblings or parent and express your concern. Explain as you have to us. Let them know how you feel. You could possibly even hang out with her and talk about why the relationship didn't and won't work. Be honest about your feelings to her and to yourself. You both might end up becoming good friends which will be good for you both.
It seems that you somewhat question whether breaking it off was the right thing. I say this because of the way you write. Now that she is not yours to worry about, you're worrying. I don't know why you feel you two are not compatible but the feelings are there. In which makes me wonder why you two were doomed. I understand that every person goes into a relationship with different expectations. But consider that those feelings you're harboring for her don't happen everyday. And understand that a relationship is like a second job, we must work hard to make it work. Just be sure this is what you want. You don't want to cause anymore pain to this girl that you care about so much. Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-12-21 06:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in your x g/f's place now. I can accept that it is over, but what makes it so hard on me is that I feel as if he never loved me at all and doesn't miss me at all. It would help me for him to let me know that, even if no possiblity of getting back together. Just to know he does care and would still be a friend to me and not cut me out completely. That would mean the world to me.
2006-12-21 05:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by jlynna10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you're not over her.If the relationship was doomed then getting back together won't change things.Find one of her friends to keep an eye on her..She may be stronger than you give her credit for....But if you do choose to go back to her,make sure it is for the right reasons.Not out of feeling guilty of how she is taking the breakup..
2006-12-21 05:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already decided not to be with her, then don't get back together, you will hurt her more if you do and then breakup again in future. Breakup is hard for anyone, but people do get over it with time. Just check with her occasionally to see if she's ok. Girls are more resilient than you think. Wish you the best.
2006-12-21 05:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by witlesstraveler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just beceause your not going out with her anymore, doesn't mean you can't be friends with her. You can still look after and care for someone and not be in love.
I wouldn't get back together with her if you dont love her, it would just make things worse later on
good luck
2006-12-21 05:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know u care. If u are better off with her as a boyfriend , be her friend. Help her and comfort her. This wil make u and her feel better :)
2006-12-21 05:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then move on!! If you weren't happy in the first place, why would you get back with her?
2006-12-21 05:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by krissy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋