ok...there is this guy in school nd hes like totally hot. and he is so0o0o0o0o0o0o sweet. he has a great heart and personality but his girlfreind is a *****. and she treats him like crap. and i like him but i want him to drop that loser and come to me...what do i do?? need help!!
2006-12-21 05:28:10 · 20 answers · asked by kungfu Kristen 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel sad to say that there may not be much that you can do, except being you. But wait, there may be something. Try to find out what he really likes (food, stuffed toys, sports, flowers, or if he plays chess, etc. and try to make him notice you. Carefull, never talk trash about anybody, 'cause then he is going to think "well, if she doesn't respect people, is she going to respect me?" just show the good side of you and let him now that you care about him, but be subttle, not too direct, nothing like "You know, I like you, do you want to dump that girl and be my boyfriend?" No, no, no.
Find out what his moral and spiritual principles are, and see how you can match them. Now, something to consider is how much in love he is with that girl and why is he her boyfriend. Is it compasion? Hope that she will change? phisical atraction? What is it?
On the other hand, if he is persistent on dating her, you need to respect his decisions, and be patient, they aren't yet married. If what you feel for him is only phisical atraction, then forget it, you'll end up playing games with him, but if it is turning into real love, then be patient and wait.
Take care and God Bless!
2006-12-21 05:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should set back and wait till they decide on what to do i mean u never know what their relationship is like behind close doors unless u r being a stalker. u should think about what if u was in a relationship would u want some girl to come in and mess it up i think that this is a question u need to ask ur self and be truthful about it.
2006-12-21 13:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by ceecee_holmes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't say a word about his girlfriend to him, first be a friend because you like the way he is. They are all sosososososweet until you get them, then its totally different, so stand back and wait like the cat that you are and when the time is right SPRING!
2006-12-21 13:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes being treated like crap? At any rate, get to know the guy and be friends. Then one day drop him a not so subtle hint: "if you ever get tired of "whats-her-name", I'll be right here for you." Be as nice as you can be to his bitchy girlfriend. I think he might tire of it sooner or later and you'll be right there. Godloveya.
2006-12-21 13:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force someone to drop their girlfriend or boyfriend it has to be up to them, just be yourself and if he is interested in you things will evetually work out, and you might want to let him know how you feel because guys are clueless and most likely wont be able to read the signs lol
good luck
2006-12-21 13:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by xxblissfulxsinxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well maintain a good friendship with him cause one thing i learned about men. They are not like us women. They seem to like to be treated like that its like a turn on for them. Hes not gonna leave her and be with you. Thats what hes looking for in you a friend to confide in and ask ?s so that he can better understand his girl. What you can do is keep hinting and making comments like geez all that naggin in your ear is it worth it lil comments like that but dont bash her to bad or give to much of your unwanted input. Be a friend. if they do break up ,dont rush into anything to fast thats like setting yourself up to get hurt cause usually people will break up and get back together in like 2 or 3 days. Give it time be a friend
2006-12-21 13:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by meka g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any contact with this guy? If you do and can talk to him you just might convince him to change direction. He seem pretty open from what you say, but how do you talk to him in private without anyone noticing so as not to blow your intentions.
2006-12-21 13:34:05 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, those may be your opinions of his girlfriend but what you see may not be what's truly going on behind close doors. You don't know how he feels about her. It would be in your best interest, as well as theirs to stay out of their business and not cause drama. If they choose to break up then you can do your girl act and close in on him like a hawk. But taking sneaky actions and trying to break them up will not solve your problem.
2006-12-21 13:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by SideStrike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be outta ovet wait for some times he will dump her if he didn't then no doubt hes a loser himself cos he can get along with sucha loser like his gurl
2006-12-21 13:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOTHING... .Listen sweets. Kharma is the real BITC*... If you steal that boy from her, COMPLETELY EXPECT that some other girl will steal him from you, or worse yet, steal some guy YOU LOVE later on in life.... he isnt worth jacking up your Kharma. TRUST ME!
2006-12-21 13:30:49 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋