Ok, so my boyfriend apparently really likes my boobs. When we kiss he likes to get close to them, and I don't allow it. I'm not exactly sure why, but I kind of feel like it could be getting too close to sex, and I'm abstinent (he is too, but just saying). When I laid down the rules for him, he seemed startled, and I couldn't really give him an answer as to why I felt this way. Do any other girls feel the same? Thanks in advance, I appreciate it.
2006-12-21 05:23:04 · 31 answers · asked by emi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg sweetie!!! of course!!! good good!! your doing very good!! that shows respect and guys like that alot. it shows that you arn't a hoe or one of those sluts on the streets. you body is a very valuablke thing in your life dont ever let anyone take advantage of it. i should know. im the same way. im even stayn a virgin till
marriage....so if he trys get mad and explain the rules agin. if he doesnt dump him. hes not worth it. trust me.....well
good luck!!!
2006-12-21 05:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by kungfu Kristen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope...I don't feel that way at all! I can see how you'd say that it is close to sex, but to me it's on complete opposite sides of the body. I think that making them completely off limits hurts you both. I feel that the boobs are a great area to get pleasure from without having to worry about sex. If you are really concerned, make the rule no under the shirt touching, but no touching at all seems a bit harsh.
2006-12-21 05:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just oblige the guy. It doesn't mean sex but it doesn't mean resisting your or his urges either. If he likes your boobs you should be flattered, at least he's not looking at other women's boobs. Besides there are other things to do besides vaginal sex. Playing, touching, licking, kissing, hugging, etc. If you aren't at the point in your life where you can do those things I would tell him and either end it or be in for a lot of heartache and possibly a deranged bf that couldn't get with his girl.
2006-12-21 05:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by michael f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 17:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to prevent it so that you don't go too far and aren't able to turn back from having sex, then there is absolutely no problem with you telling him that. That could put you over the edge, and when you're that far, that's not the time to try to decide that you're not going to do it. Good for you! You have set the boundaries and limits. Stick to your guns!
2006-12-21 05:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it means that you've never been kissed there before? Well good for you girl. If you start, maybe next time you will allow him everything and since only he's a bf, better to give it after you got married.
2006-12-21 05:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by mareko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your body - you get to make the rules. If you're not comfortable, you're not comfortable, and it doesn't matter how "normal" or "common" it is. If your boyfriend really loves you, he'll respect your feelings - just keep in mind that you'll have to let him know clearly when you're ready for those limits to be lifted.
2006-12-21 05:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i think there gets a point where theres just too much touching. i get scared when i feel it could lead to something i dont want yet. you aren't weird, or strange, or wrong. it should be up to you, don't give him everything from the beginning, then there wont be anything left when you get married. maybe this isn't the advice you wanted.
2006-12-21 05:37:13 · answer #8 · answered by baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a girl but commend you for setting boundaries for yourself and sticking to them. Making out can easily lead to more. You obviously realize this and have made your chest off limits. Hope my daughter grows up with similar values...
2006-12-21 05:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like I'm kinda answering a personal question, but here it goes, nope I don't like my breasts played with, never have. Just me. I think everyone has things that are good for them and things that aren't. Best to be honest and best to respect the person your with.
2006-12-21 05:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by mkb80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋