I have been chatting on msn and e-mail a girl I like. We met at this youth program. She wanted to dance with me. She wanted a picture of us two together. The way she seems to talk to me makes it seem she liked me. She is always happy when I chat with or e-mail her every week or two. She said she wants to come visit me sometime since she only lives and hour and a half away. Then I find that she has a boyfriend and I don't not think she know that I know yet because she still acts the same. This totally threw me off. Do girls tend to do this? What should I do?
2006-12-21 05:22:50 · 18 answers · asked by SPORTS GUY 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My name is Nathaniel.
Why did you want to know that Samantha?
2006-12-21 05:38:07 · update #1
Yeah, some of them do that. First be sure that she has a boyfriend (your source MIGHT be unreliable . . . be SURE before you use that info to make a decision). Here's what you do: ask her if she has a boyfriend! If she lies, well, she isn't very trustworthy. If she tells you that she does, "but . . .
2006-12-21 05:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many girls only those who want to cheat on boys or have a bad relationship with their boyfriend in which case you need to hang on because she is just right for you. Well not completely but you never know. Tell her that you know then see what happens. If she says she can explain then give her a chance to, if she hangs up the phone then forget her.
2006-12-21 13:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's outgoing and friendly, and thinks of you as a close friend. I've known girls like that before - some are even very touchy-feely and are hugging and touching even though they're not interested in me at all.
If you want to be 100% sure, talk to one of her other friends and see how she acts around him/her. Chances are good, though, that she's just not interested in you as more than a friend. Sorry!
2006-12-21 13:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she might be having problems with her boyfriend, or she might be a "player" girls do that too! Just be careful not to fall for her to fast or hard because maybe she is just looking to get things from you, then split, If she truely is interested in just being friends she will be satisfied with the phone and email contact.
2006-12-21 13:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by dawnlovesbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she's probably not happy in her relationship, but that does not give her the right to deceive you.
The next time she starts talking about visiting you, just slip in "how does your boyfriend fell about you coming to see me?" Don't be confrontational, or accusatory. Just ask casually.
If she gets all flustered, she didn't want you to know about him. If she comes clean, she can still be trusted. if she gets defensive, drop that sl*t on her ear!
2006-12-21 13:28:37 · answer #5 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probly not happy in her other relationship so she is having a relationship with you and hasn't told you yet because she might be afraid that you would dump her but like i said the other guy is probly being mean to her and she does not feel safe about telling cause she might think that the other guy might do something to you if you get involved just talk to her about it and if you really like her you would tell her that you know about the other guy
2006-12-21 13:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by asdfjkl; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to know because you sound familer to me , I met my friend almost they same way ,we talk and do the same thing as you and that girl is doing , and I was just wondering if it was my friend (witch is not )it's you .Thank you ,very kind and I hope every thing works out for you and that girl ..
2006-12-21 13:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you POSITIVE that she has a boyfriend? Never take second-hand info as gospel truth.
I'm big on communication. If it is true, lay out the facts, and find out what really going on. "So. You have a boyfriend? Is he cool with us being friends like this?"
2006-12-21 13:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by _Zith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are the guy that is going to replace the person she is with. When you see her tell her you know she has a boyfriend and ask what is the deal with that situation
2006-12-21 13:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be considering you as a close friend.
Ask her if she thinks of your relationship as more than friends. If she says "just friends" continue the friendship. If she says it is more? Ask about the other guy. Just be blunt.
But you don't want to look silly if your thinking more and she is thinking best friend.
2006-12-21 13:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋