Ok, i recently heard a study that said 9 out of 10 married people had pre-marital sex. This was done on men and women alike raised after 1940. Why then must it be drilled and drilled into our youth's minds that momma and grandma were virgins untill they were married and its shameful and no one should have sex untill they are married. Why not teach what sex is, how to be safe, and the physical and mental effects of having sex??
2006-12-21 05:12:02 · 11 answers · asked by Derek V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree... Trying to stop kids from having sex is like fixing a broken dam with a french fry... It is NOT going to work. I think instead of UNREALISTICALLY Dreaming that our children will remain virgins, we should be pro educational and demand that our schools and our country get on top of this crisis. Because, really... thats what it is.... a crisis. Children having babies and catching STD's because they dont know how to use protection or where to get it. Or because they were raised to NOT have sex, they are embarrassed to purchase condoms. I was raised to remain a virgin till marriage as well, and That didnt happen... I think in this day and age, it is VERY UNREALISTIC to think that kids will remain virgins till married. Good question.
2006-12-21 05:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree - and I think more and more people think the same.
I think many parents don't want to deal with the idea of their own child having sex, getting pregnant as a teen, getting an STD through carelessness, or hurt emotionally or physically by an insensitive partner. It is then easy for them to get on the virgin til married bandwagon - but my mother was smart enough to talk to me about birth control as a teen and we took sensible precautions.
Now, it seems to me that the Bush administration (in line with a religious right mentality) has made big changes in the way the education system teaches children about sex and that I do not like. I have heard specific changes to curriculum that strongly supports abstinence and give flat out lies about other things to scare kids into an abstinent life. I don't think that is healthy - but I think it could work in a country where we seem too uncomfortable to talk to our kids honestly about sex and our own experiences in life.
Peace!
2006-12-21 05:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that same study on the radio this morning. I thought it was funny. The question was raised if they counted all the people who had sex and never married into their study. If they counted those people then it wasn't a very accurate study. I'm not really surprised by the results. I don't know what the big deal is anyway. I agree with your opinion. Cheers!
2006-12-21 05:19:54 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a taboo topic that, like it or not, will remain that way. You may be going wild at nights with your significant other now, but when you settle down and have kids, I promise you your mentality on the topic will change. With this said, all this is coming from someone who doesn't necessarily agree in pre-marital sex. Wouldn't you rather just enjoy the moment with the TRUE love of your life, rather than a one night stand at a cheap hotel?
Yeah, thats what I thought...:)
2006-12-21 05:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. It is better to teach kids how to be safe and responsible than waste time trying to preach abstinence. Some kids will make the choice to stay a virgin and it should be applauded. Most kids will choose to have sex and need easy options for protection.
2006-12-21 05:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
virginity is something that once it is taken or given, cant be gotten back. momma and grandma probably gave it up to someone just for the hell of it and it wasnt special and they regret it now. sex should be shared with someone special that you love. if you change your mind, just find the right one and i also think you are right about teaching how to be safe and the effects.
2006-12-21 05:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have nine-year old twin girls and honestly, I don't expect them to remain virgins until marriage. I think I will just tell them to protect themselves and never do anything they don't want to. I will try to be more open with them about it than my mother was. But teaching all aspects of sex is important--at the appropriate age.
2006-12-21 05:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally agree. my parents drilled it in my head to wait, but that only made me more curious. i plan on telling my kids that they can make their own decisions be it good or bad, but to be safe.
2006-12-21 05:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by trisha_r_c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my friends always does this. She says it 'attracts' more guys. Guys like innocent girls and she loves playing that role.... Go figure...
2006-12-21 05:14:42 · answer #9 · answered by Meow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is great anytime before marriage and even better after?
2006-12-21 05:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋