A group of co-workers are trying to find out what would be appropiate to send him after his mother just passed away. A card and flowers?
2006-12-21 05:07:48 · 22 answers · asked by cplatt22 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A card is always appropriate. Did her obituary ask for memorial donations to a charitable organization? Because that would also be an appropriate, lasting tribute. If you don't know, then perhaps there is a non-profit that is specific to her cause of death (American Heart/Lung/Cancer Association, Diabetes, etc) to whom a donation in her memory would also be appropriate.
I'm sure he'll be touched by any effort that you make.
2006-12-21 05:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A card and flowers are appropriate.
Read the obituary and if it says something along the lines of "in lieu of flowers please send a donation to..." then it's best to follow the wishes of the deceased. You can then mention the donation in a card or letter.
At this time, it is also appropriate and very helpful to just send a sincere letter or card with a small financial contribution to help with funeral expenses.
My sympathies for your co-worker.
I would avoid the suggestions of things that would remind your co-worker of the deceased. That can actually be very emotional and sometimes not have the result that you intended. This could be a difficult time for your co-worker. Some words of comfort are good and appropriate - but you don't want to unintentionally cross a line either.
2006-12-21 05:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people prefer donations to flowers- it is usually a good idea to check with them before you send. A card is lovely and sympathy and understanding go further than most things money can buy at such a time. Don't bug someone, but to offer to do practical things and ensure your there if they need someone. Also going to the funeral is a great support, ppl always like to see a full room! Is there any way they could close the office or whatever so as many ppl can attend as possible?
2006-12-21 05:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card signed by everyone and flowers are very appropriate. If you were all close with this co-worker or if this person worked for the company for a long time, you could all chip in and buy a nice funeral spray to be sent to the funeral home/wake.
2006-12-21 05:15:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to send something other than flowers, whenever possible. Many florists now carry other items for just such a purpose -- sometimes a knickknack that can be saved, like an angel or a pretty picture frame with a poem on it or an afghan with angels. Ask the florist if they have other gift items that they deliver to the funeral homes.
2006-12-21 05:10:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a card and flowers is appropriate. ANother alternative would be to make a donation to say a society ( for example if she died of cancer, then the American Cancer Society etc)
2006-12-21 05:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by N T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a donation to the Cancer Society, or Heart Association or something meaningful. They will send a card to him acknowledging the donation.
2006-12-22 17:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A card and flowers are no doubt the best way to go. Bless his heart.
2006-12-21 07:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flowers are nice, if nothing else,give her a gift card so she can go shop when she feels like it....Put it in a card that everyone signs....
2006-12-21 10:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a card (with genuine messages) & flowers, and assistance with any arrangements.
2006-12-24 09:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by €sote®i© ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋