Boyfriend annoyed, bothered by me, what should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year!!! We love eachother so much, in fact we are so in love. Relationships have problems and we understand that. Lately my boyfriend has ben kind of distant from me. For example,
1). Rush me off the phone, kind of normal but it adds to all the other things.
2We haven't talked to eachother in awhile in a days worth, and that bothers me
3). I call him all the time, and he calls but he only started doing it when I complianed about it.
4). When something is bothering me, I share it with him especially if it deals with him,..like little issues, he says I am complaining.
Supposely everything I say that is negative about him, it has to be me complaining. he doesn't say that he misses me at all, I like to hear things said to me rather than he do it. We have not seen eachother in about a week, not once on the phone has he said I miss you, until a few mintues ago. We use to have sex alot, BUt it has decrease in some time.

He is not cheating on me, he is a Christian, and not the cheating type, in addition, I would like to have some advice, and I am not going to break upi with him at all. I love him, I just want to know what would be the reason why he seems bothered by me, or annoyed???

I am 19 about to be 20,we both are.

Answer 1

Ok speaking as a girl, girls do tend to complain a lot. And even when they love the guy, they tend to find any little flaw in them. Guys aren't like us, even if they miss you they won't tell you. They just want us to assume that we know. Of course that's not how we are but it's how they are. Guys need to be told straight out. They don't take hints like we do. If he's rushing you off the phone, maybe he has things to do. Of course it's not a nice feeling because you feel like he doesn't want to talk to you or he doens't have time, but he's probably busy and you're making too much out of it. So just tell him how you feel and if he takes it the wrong way, let him. Just let him seriously and don't make a big deal out of it. If you love each other, he'll get over it.

Answer 2

Stop being so clingy and demanding.

To him, you are emotionally high maintenance. You want all of his attention. Give the dude some air.

Now on that other thing...

Would you miss him, if every time you talked, he had to telly ou what's wrong with how you act? Would you miss him if he always was telling you what you could do better, without ever telling you what it is he appreciates about you now? No, you wouldn't.

If you are always finding fault with him and the relationship, and you never offer him any praise for what he gets right, you are complaining. A better word would be nagging. Would you miss him, if he was like that? No, you wouldn't.

He might actually miss you, but he could do without all the fault finding, complaining, and nagging. That stuff makes him not even want to deal with you.

Just something for you to think about.

Answer 3

You need to sit down with him and talk. Get a bottle of wine (if you're old enough) and schedule a "meeting" with him. Let him know that you feel communication is lacking in your relationship and that you'd like to sit down with him so the two of you can talk. Come up with some topics and ask him to do the same.

You can't go on not talking, otherwise it will continue to go downhill. Also, it may be a good idea to give him a little space. You two have been together for a decent amount of time (a year is enough to be fairly serious) and he may be starting to get cold feet. Commitments are a lot harder on guys than women.

Just be open with him and ivite him to do the same. Just be prepared to ehar something that you may not want to hear.

Answer 4

Honey, a man doesn't want his woman calling him endlessly and pestering him all day long! Give the guy some space!!! Love is a mutual thing. If you love him, let him have some time to himself and stop chasing after his every move. That's enough to annoy anyone! Be mature about your relationship. You're pushing him away when you're complaining and calling. Back up a little. When you have something to say, wait and ask yourself if it's that important? Also, men thrive on praise! Try paying the guy a compliment once in a while. You're sucking him dry emotionally. And if you keep it up, he'll move on.

Answer 5

girl same thing happened to me i know how it feels. But mine is a 2 yr & 1/2 relationship.. Well just recently i realized that my boyfriend needs space and i do too not a break or break up just time to enjoy ourselves. It doesnt mean dating or nothing like that just catering our own needs.

I was exactly like you calling him questioning him crying to him and that only lead to a break up we got back together a couple of wks later but thats when i decided to change. I know change is hard changes lead you to nagg but good changes the ones that come from within arent so hard. I changed for him because i saw that my nagging pushed him away but also i did this for myself all the nagging and dumb thoughts of him not loving me and me getting annoying were destroying my life i was unhappy at home at work and even if i was in a room surrounded by happy people i was still sad or mad.

so i say go out [not necesseraly clubbing] and have fun get ur mind off him for a while. Guys love attention and if you make a big deal out of things that only feeds their ego a man just like a woman shouldn't feel 100% sure of that person thats next to them is theirs and the one that will stay and wait a little doubt is always good im not saying cheat just show him you too can have a bussy life hell run back to you they always come back hahaha lol j.k

Answer 6

You say "WE" love each other so much and "WE"" are so in love...are you sure that's an accurate statement and not just wishful thinking on your part? I'm sure YOU think you are so in love.. but from what you are saying about his interaction with you... I'm not convienced he feels the same. You don't say how old you are.. but I get the impression you are very young. Take it slow...don't push the relationship. If it's suppose to be...it will.

Answer 7

Honestly jus because he is a Christian doesnt mean that he is not cheating.You may want to look into this a bit more.I would say that he might think that you are nagging him or a bit needy.Im not saying that to be mean but it may be that he does think you are complaining too much.Maybe he just wants to spend quality tim with you without you griping to him.Think back to how it was when you first started dating and try to get back to that.He might miss it.I hope this helps

Answer 8

You have to understand the guy you choose is not the type to speak out loud. If you want the flirting type, you will not have him. So love him for who he is and tell him your needs.

Answer 9

hello i knw you think he's not cheating on you but r you shore about that it really dosent matter if he's a christan ima a christan and i cheated on some one i loved. maybe he jst needs some space for a couple days i knw its hard to do that but you have to.Maybe he's getting tired and wnts some one new .BUT GIVE HIM THE SP@CE HE NEEDS

Answer 10

dont call him or speak to him for a few dayas to see if he contacts u if not your old news