i got with a woman that was married and had a daughter with her husband. she left him for me. we lasted seven years and never married but, had two kids together. i got into drugs and alcohol and she cheated on me a few times. about a month and a half ago she told me that we were over and she wanted me to leave. i found out she was having sex with a mutual friend. since then i have given my life to God. i have totally changed my life. as of right now she hasn't changed and she doesn't want to get back with me but, i don't want to go back to her if she asks me to because she hasn't changed and i don't want this hurt ever again. also, i'm a little nervous of going back to my old ways. we have two kids together so if she asks for me back and i say no......how does God look at that? what should i do? try to make it work for the kids or just keep moving on? thanks everyone and merry christmas to you all.
2006-12-21 04:55:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You do not have to do anything that you don't feel at peace about.
2 Corinthians 6:14
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
You are able to take care of your children without returning to old habits and past relationships. Remember: Old things are passed away; all things are new!! You are a new creature in Christ strengthened by God to experience and to do new divinely inspired things! Pray for your former spouse and your children. As you do so things will change if not in the circumstance itself the change will occur in your heart and that's what matters most to God; the condition of your heart.
2006-12-21 04:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by drivn2excelchery 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to stand up and be a man. You MUST see to it that your children are taken care of. They are your most important responsibility. You personal wants "moving on" should wait until the duty to your children is complete. Your children will need Christ too so show them how He has changed you. Tell them of the Love that He has put in your heart. Be there for them, don't be an absentee father.. You made a mess of things to this point in your life from now on follow Christ. When He put someone new in your life do things the right way. Present yourselves before the church and commit yourselves to each other. DO NOT get back into a committed relationship with a non-believer.... Jim
2006-12-21 13:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just move on. You have found God and you have changed your way of living. She is an adulterer and you dont need this in your life. Continue on with your walk with God and you shall find comfort and God will lead you to someone deserving of your love. A bit of advice and it is an old saying Once a cheat always a cheat. Until she can redeem herself and turn her life around you will never be able to trust her. Merry Christmas to you also
2006-12-21 13:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. I think that you should talk to a pastor that you trust about your specific situation.
My first gut instinct is to say that it is over and you should not go back to her (you were never married, after all). Maybe you can still see the children from time to time as a friend or babysitter.
2006-12-21 13:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus said.. he having his hand to the plow and looking back is not fit for the kingdom of God.
You need to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.
There is no peace with a relationship if you don't agree,but you are responsible for the well fare of your children not just financially but emotionally and spiritually.
2006-12-21 13:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by jackiedj8952 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can make it work for the kids AND get out and keep moving on.
You should steer clear of toxic people.
2006-12-21 13:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you must do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do. since she doesn't want to get back with you time to go on as far as I am concerned.
2006-12-21 13:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you've given up the drugs and alcohol? You're pretty incoherent...
2006-12-21 12:59:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋