Do people care if their girlfriend or boyfriend are smart?

Question

Also, which one do people look into more?
Someone's:humor, looks,financial status, or kindness?

Answer 1

of course! nobody wants a dumb bf or gf for that matter

Answer 2

First off, a "control" freak would "care" if some one is smarter than they were, because that would not fit into thier scheme of things...

They would berate, degrade and humiliate the person until thier self esteem was low enough, so that they could control them...

As for the second part of your question, people will judge you by the way you Look, before they even hear you speak...(Its human nature, and it is a real pain in my opinion...because some wonderful people are not "pretty", but, they are very warm hearted).

Then, the humor factor kicks in...If your a dull person, people will generally shun you because they want some one who is "warm" and humorous to be around...a fun person. Then, when they get to know you and find out if your kind or not very kind, that will further make up thier judgement about your character...

Financial status is only for those who are so shallow, that I wouldnt want to be around them all day long! If some one cant be friends with you because your "poor" or dont live on the "right side of the tracks", then they dont deserve my consideration...

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 3

I care if the guy I'm dating is smart. I dated a less intelligent guy and I got really frustrated on a regular basis with him. Sometimes I just want to have an intelligent conversation, and if I can get into it with my boyfriend, then I'll find someone else, you know? Financial status is somewhat important, for example, if the person has a lot of debt, I wouldn't want to get involved because I don't want to be dragged into it. Humor is definitely important, but the real determination to me is how happy I am and if we have fun together or not. That could be determined by kindness, humor, looks, financial status or intelligence.

Answer 4

Yes, I care if my girlfriend (wife) is smart. Who wants to spend the rest of their life with a dumbass?

As for the rest, humor and kindness are high on the list. Overall personality is number one.

Looks, while important, fall fairly low on the list. However, I can't honestly say that they do not play a big part in selecting a partner. It is a balance between personality and looks with personality carrying more weight.

Current financial status is way down on the list. Chances are that if one has good personality attributes a poor financial status will have more to do with being a student, between jobs, etc... rather than being the result of just being a bum.

Answer 5

I care A LOT if my significant other is smart or not. There is no way I could be with someone who is stupid. Not even for a minute. As for what people look into more....here's my order: Humor, Kindness Financial Status, Looks

Answer 6

I am lucky. I married a beautiful woman who is pretty damn smart. She's also got a great sense of humor. I couldn't be with someone who couldn't make me laugh or contribute to an intelligent conversation. As far as financial status, I could give a rat's ***. I was poor when I married her, and so was she, that's never been something I sought out in a woman.
When looking for a partner, I looked at the entire package. Yes, looks are important, becasue that's what we base our first impresssions off of, but they can often be wrong, but we are human. But like I said, if someone can't make me laugh or has nothing intelligent to say, then I'm not intrested.

Answer 7

Personally, I look for a good balance of all those things. I like to know they are responsible, and financial status can be an indicator of that, but not necessarily. I would initially be attracted to someone by their looks, but their humor and intelligence can sway me either way (as in I didn't like them at first, but once they talk I'm swooning, or they were hot until they opened their mouth and revealed their true colors!). Kindess is the final test, if they treat me well they're a keeper, if they don't have that, regardless of the other attributes, they aren't worth saving.

Answer 8

People who are looking for long-lasting and committed relationships generally DO care whether their boy or girl is intelligent. Ideally, we all search for someone with whom we can connect; someone who understands our thoughts, can challenge us, and can also provide insight into things that we would not have understood or thought about before the relationship. Besides, after you're older, the sex becomes less important, and connecting on a different level starts to become more important. Of course, you don't have to share the same perspective on all things (vive la difference!) but it's good to have someone who can understand your thoughts and cares about yourself and the world around you both.

As for financial status, looks, or kindness: I would say that kindness goes a LONG way. But at the end of the day, people do care whether they are attracted to the other person. We can "grow" to become attracted to someone that we did not previously consider attractive if we get to know her or him in a more personal way--all of my most special relationships have been with people I never would have thought I would have gone out with (considering their appearance). But after you know the person, *sometimes* looks take a backseat. Humor goes without saying! We should always keep that with us--but beware of using it as a "mask" for facing important relationship issues.

As for the money: this is a sticky issue. Some folks look at another's pocketbook before all else; I have found myself having a terrific time on dates with others who did not have much money; you'd be surprised how much fun is to be had for free! But for those for whom this matters (no criticism here) I say beware: money often comes with strings attached--expectations and sometimes favors etc. Real love has no price and cannot be bought...for some however, they sacrifice love for comfort and security...and bravo to those who find all three! Such a combination is rare indeed! Hope this helps!

Answer 9

I think most people are more concerned with what interests them the most, what they find intriguing and the goals of that person in relation to what the other partner is looking for; the direction they both want to go in life. Smart is a relative term. I'm "smart" when it comes to English. I love writing and reading and creating. In many certain circles, I'm "dumb" when it comes to math. Out of the four choices you gave, people are always initially attracted to looks, but someone's kindness is probably what will keep a person and take them further than looks, financial status or humor. Robin Williams is funny to me, but I wouldn't want to date him (seems to be hiding pain). Donald Trump is rich, but I wouldn't date him either (too into himself). Tom Cruise is handsome, I would not date him either (seems a little off in the head).

Answer 10

Yes. Being smart is very important. Sense of humor is most important to me. You have to be able to laugh with your significant other. Kindness is also very important. Looks are no reason to show interest in someone, I see good looks as an added bonus. Financial status doesn't and shouldn't matter.

Answer 11

At first I always get attracted by looks, as well as most people. But if the guy has no brains and is an airhead, then I pay him no mind. To me looks are most important, then humor, intelligence, kindness and then financial status.