I've been potty training my 3yrs old son for 6 mos. now and I'm about to snap. For months he has been "almost" potty trained. He goes when we are at home most of the time but I can't get him to go when we are out. At home he just peed in his pants right in front of me and then told me he had to go? I know you are suposta stay positive, but it takes all my effort not to yell at him. What do you do when they know better but they go in their pants anyway? I've read all the books, we've done reward etc. I'm looking for some creative suggestions to save my sanity and get him over the hump and into dry pants. Thanks.
2006-12-21 04:47:38 · 9 answers · asked by BlueFish 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Don't let him know that you have and issue with this. If you insist, he will resist because he is in control. Make sure he is in clothing that he can get on and off without any help. If he is still using diapers or pull ups, count out the remainder with him and say "After 9 more diapers (pull ups) you get to use the bathroom." Let him pick out some "Big boy" underwear. When you think it is about time he should go or when you see him doing the "potty dance," say to him "It seems like you need to use the bathroom” or get real animated and say “Guess what time it is? It’s potty time!” (a little weird but has worked for me). If he is successful, do not reward him with stickers or treats or he will only use the bathroom for the reward. Instead, simply say "You did it! You must be so proud of yourself!" When he has an accident, don't give it much attention. Say "It looks like you need to change." He can remove his wet clothing, rinse them out, put them in a bag in the laundry, clean any wet area, and put on dry clothing. I know it is hard to take a step back but by doing this it won't take him long to learn it is much easier to use the bathroom.
Children will resort to having accidents in order to feel powerful. Help him to feel powerful in positive ways by saying things like "You did that by yourself!" "You can run super fast!" "Look how high you can jump!" "You used so many colors on your painting." These phrases are great confidence boosters, are great ways for you to show love and attention, and great ways for him to feel powerful in a positive way. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-12-21 06:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope someone has an answer for you...i'll be sure to read. But i just wanted to say i'm right there with you.
I have a 2 year old daughter and i've been potty training her for about the same time you have.
I just bought the seat that actually sits on the toilet and she does better but she never ever tells us "pee pee" or "poo poo" That's what drives me up the wall.
And this morning she peed in my room.....i know it takes all your strength to stay calm, and soemtimes it's hard becaus eit is so frustrating.
I also have a 9m/o and one on the way so we really need at least one out of diapers/pull-ups lol.
My method is i got a cooking timer and i set it for every 30 minutes. When it goes of i say TEE TEE and after about a month of this she's started repeating me as soon as it buzzes she yells tee tee and runs to the bathroom.
I swing her like a monkey to make it fun and i have plastic books in there and she can grab one to read or ducks to play with and that helps distract her.
Sometimes i turn the fawcet on or wet a cloth and let the water drip down the front of her so she thinks she peeing and i cheer and clap and this past week with doing that, she has peed on the loo.
I'm sorry i'm not much help and i hope someone reads with better advice....i need it too - all i keep hearing is "consistency is the key"....well i have the timer going of every 30 minutes is that not consistent enough lol - good luck.
2006-12-21 12:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know your feeling. My son potty trained early at almost 2 years old and I was told girls were easier. Well, my 3 year old daughter is just potty trained. Now on to my 2 year old daughter.
I tried everything people told me and read all of the books, rewarded her and even got her potty books and videos. What finally worked for me was to set a timer (I bought a kitchen one) for 1 hour (every hour on the hour no matter what). When it buzzed, she knew it was time to sit on the potty and try for at least 5 minutes. I then got a Tupperware bowl and filled it with skittles (or M&M's - my daughter is allergic). If she did #1, she'd get 2 skittles and if she did #2, she'd get 4 skittles. It FINALLY worked and she even gets skittles randomly nowadays. Hope this helps you.
2006-12-21 12:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by downinmn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my daughter is 2yrs old, and I have been trying it for the past month and she will use the her potty whenever she has to go, she doesn't tell me she just goes to it herself, but I haven't tried doing it if we go somewhere. I figured out with my child, they know what you are saying but honestly, they are not going to do it the right way until they feel like it. I am hoping I can full get her trained because I am about to have another baby in April and I refuse to have to change to different pampers. I think you will be ok, just try not to stress and yell, I really know how you feel. Good luck.
2006-12-21 12:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to training a child on anything, including potty training, the level of 'love and respect of the mom towards the child (as perceived by the child her/him self)' counts much more for the success than the 'adopted technique'.
Lack of that pushes the child psychologically to experiment some games with mom or dad - ie, "let me see what happens if I do something that is not going to be liked"
2006-12-21 13:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a 3 yr old son. He has been potty trained for awhile now except for at night we are still struggling with that because I am to lazy to get up at night to bring him to the bathroom. ( my fault). I just kept asking him about every hr if he had to pee. As far as going out I would make sure he uses the bathroom before you leave and while your out take him to the nearest bathroom when you get to the place your going. Tell him that it's icky to pee in his pants and remind him to tell you he has to go. Try not to get upset with him. I know it's hard.
2006-12-21 13:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by mystic4624 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried buying him his favorite cartoon character underwear and telling him that if he gets him wet he won't like him anymore...i did that with my son who is now 4 almost 5 and we haven't had a more problems...or something my husband did with the baby is when she did wet her pants he got onto her and made her sit on the potty for like 10 min.... she is now 2 and doesn't wet her pants at all
2006-12-21 12:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Amy L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sit him up at the toilet till he pees
2006-12-21 12:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what do you mean that EWWW
2006-12-21 12:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 7⤋