okay, first of all I am 16. I don't want you thinking I am older.
I have this best friend and he is a boy, and we do everything together. He sleeps over but somehow it is very possible (but hard for me sometimes) to keep it a strict friend sleepover.
For the past 2 years he has been with me for christmas.
I've been getting so many signals from him and know that he is absolutely in love with me. He shows off wherever we go and he cares so much about me. People have told me that we will grow up and get married.
Now on the phone he tells me he;s going to be at his guy friend's house and might not be back in time for us to pick him up.
He just didnt sound that eager to go.
I'm getting so many mixed emotions.
I'm mad at him but at the same time understand and at the same time feel this longing to be with him. I'm just waiting for him to ask me out or something but he is too afraid.
Am I overreacting to the christmas thing, and how can you ease a a "boy" friend's fears about love?
2006-12-21 04:46:41 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been through the same thing as you. When I was younger my best friend was a guy, we did everything together, he stayed at my house and I stayed at his. Wherever you saw him you saw me. We double dated together, when we didn't have a boyfriend or girlfriend we had each other. God, the good times we use to have. When I was almost 18 I got engaged, my best friend didn't really like him to much but he put up with him because of me. I didn't care for some of his choices of girls either, but we never let this get in our way of being friends. One night out of the blue we were over at some friends house, we were streched out on the floor side by side watching T.V. he turns to me, kisses me like I have never been kissed before, by anyone and tells me he loves me. I looked at him and said I Love You to, he replys, no I really love you more than a friend, He says he doesn't want me to marry this guy, he wants us to move in together and get married. To make a long story short, we started dating each other, I called the wedding off and one night we slept together, this changed everything. We ruined our great friendship by dating and sleeping with each other. This hurt me more than I can tell you, it still hurts today and this was 25 years ago. We have talked and seen eachother through the years, but the closeness we once had and treasured are gone, I wish I could go back to that night on the floor and change everything back but I can't. If you love each other as friends, don't screw it up by sleeping or dating this guy. Friendships that lasts are few, keep the relationship you have now, I wish I had.
2006-12-21 05:13:20 · answer #1 · answered by jlynncogbill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell u something girl there is a big Difference between a Boy-Friend ande a Boyfriend..I mean look I had broke up wit my boyfriend for a couple months i felt so lonely n so well my Boy whos is a Friend would take me everything and we started kicking it together A LOT! Sure enough from friends we started likeing each other n well this friend has never had an actual girl or anything...we started dating n everything went good at first the bad thing wuz my friends where his friends, meaning we where all friends...everything was good at first n well things just didnt workout as bf/gf thing n well now we are no longer cool friends like we use to be and we have to get our friends saying oh u rather go wit him than with me or so. Now things work out so differently and i miss the fact that i would go to my friends for advice now that me and him stop dating things arent the same its like we lost our mutual connection as friends n it pretty much sucks so i say just be careful on the decion u make because if hes such a great friend u wouldnt wanna loose that feeling.
2006-12-21 05:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel that he must ask you out? You like him, and allow him to stay at your house, So beef up and ask him out, Tell him that you would really like him to be there for christmas but if he cant make it you understand. Go for you man!
2006-12-21 04:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by Zog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is always a diffult situation that could end up ruining a friendship and maybe you should think about that, if you are confortable in this stage, then let it be...but if absolutely sure that he loves you and it seems to me that you do too.. then I would risk it and tell him...
Good Luck
2006-12-21 04:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by red_klinik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that he just wants to hang out with his guy friends and well i think that u should just accept that and well just wait till he comes back!
2006-12-21 04:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by *Living a {{ღяøM@N!Cღ}} Tragity* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋