I fell in love with someone who I thought was in love with me. And It's not the case, I gave everything i could to her, the best of me and for that person I'm just considered her best friend sometimes she calls me her soul mate. It's been 4 years that we've been together. And now i found out she has started looking for dates and actually went on one and slept with the guy! She told me she didnt love me and says that we are just friends very close friends. She hopes that i can meet someone one day.I'm so hurt by this! I tried to not talk or see her and she said she would be firm and not allow me back it lasted two days and we were back together but she said we are only friends now, that she loves me like a best friend. She cares for me but isnt in love with me that she doesnt love anyone and never has, but when we talk about the future she says i'm there right next to her old and gray and she wants to live with me, she says she cant be without me or she'd be dead long ago.???????
2006-12-21 04:27:26 · 22 answers · asked by matrix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please note when she meets anyone all she talks about is me!!!!!!!!
2006-12-21 05:57:34 · update #1
also when i dont want to hang around her she tells me that a friendship is better than a relationship because friendships last longer
2006-12-21 06:26:30 · update #2
Get wise,you are to stand up like a man tell the lady that she is using you and you will not atlorate that any more, dont make a fuss, just tell her like it is, then go out and try to find some one who really need some one to settle with if thats what you want, but dont continue to let her use you and take you for granted, whenever she calls just say to her perhaps later but I am busy right now and always have an excuse, and if she comes over tell her you are leaving right away and dont let her persuade you to stay, even if you are not going anywhere pretend dont answer the phone at night if you are home,let your answer service pick up, and always have an excuse, by so doing she will get the message loud and clear because this person only wants you for her convenience, she told you up front that she dont love you, so you should beleive her. she just dont want or love you ok, good luck in finding some one who loves you.
2006-12-21 04:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well love is a two way street --and seems you are on a one way road--I give her credit for being honest in how she feels about you---she says you are her best friend--and so be it--sometimes love blooms from this and sometimes not--You need to cherish what you have with her if you can or move out of her circle if you cant stand the thought of being around her just as a friend--be honest with her and when she asks why you have been other places tell her how you feel --maybe with you being gone or even finding someone else to spend time with ?? it Could be a wake-up call for her that she will see that you are the one for her--Who knows give it a shot--but don't stay available to her at the cost of you being unhappy--that's not fair to you--
2006-12-21 04:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r so right I totaly agree with you it happens to me alot when someone likes me I give him a hard time and when someone don't care much about me I'll be wanting him more and try hard to be with him and feel crazy about him. It's the brain that works like that I think it's like the story of adam and eve when there were so many trees to eat apples from but they ate from d forbidded one. Sometimes we do the same, we want to get what we can't it's like a chalange but in love it drives me crazy because I won't even understand myself. Do your best to look at her as a friend cause u will suffer. Goodluck.
2006-12-21 04:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she loves you and doesn't even know it. Maybe she's just looking for someone different. She obviously loves you and cares for you but not in that way. I know how it is, I loved this guy who wouldnt even tell me how he felt about me, and I am slowly getting over it. I can't tell you what to to but if you really love her you should let her do what she wants to the point where she doesn't overstep her boundaries as just a 'friend'.
2006-12-21 04:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lady K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but this does NOT sound like love to me at all! It sounds to me like she is just using you for what she wants and needs and that is it! I think you should end it with her and move on! It is hard to love a person that does not love you back or love you the way you want them too. We can not control how another person feels about us.
2006-12-21 04:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry which you got here upon your self in this type of hurtful undertaking, yet curious is robust, you're youthful and issues gets greater suitable.... yet once you're hurting so badly, possibly it may be suitable to place a splash distance between yourselves. you do no longer ought to observe them be at the same time and harm your self greater.. yet do no longer hardship honey, existence if crammed with surprises and who knows what the destiny holds 4 your luv existence!
2016-10-15 09:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you need to find someone else. Or at least ignore her. Distance yourself from her because as long as you are around her you will have a hard time moving on. And who knows, maybe if you stay away from her, she'll realize just how important you are to her... who knows? But it's going to affect your self-esteem, pride, and sanity if you are around her any longer.
2006-12-21 04:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Nina Abb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same senirio. I dont know its like they juss want to hear you say it then they act like they do love you then they really dont. But you cant get over them. Yea its really crazy! In your story i done the same thing with the other guy. But yea i love him and know hes mad and doesnt want anything to do with me. But if they really truly love you then they will forgive and come back no matter what. If they dont then we need to move on!!!!
2006-12-21 04:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by lyssa a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think you should stay away from her for a bit. Then if it's true that she'd die without you, she'll seek you out and want a serious relationship with you. If she doesn't, then it wasn't meant to be.
2006-12-21 04:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by gigi_victory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say its beacuse its just human nature!!! God created us the way we are and if the don't love you back its so that u can see that he isnt the one and u will eventually find that true love of ur life!!! Trust me its happened!
2006-12-21 04:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by Dat Dominiricana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋