ok, my man says he loves me i am the one for him, no one can sex him like i do, but there is allways a but, anyway he cheat on me. so he went to jail this year, and i cheat on him, at first i cryed, then i got over it.
2006-12-21 04:17:10 · 22 answers · asked by tommes girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He went to jail. Now is a good time to think about the rest of your life with him. Maybe it is time to move on...without him.
2006-12-21 04:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe these answers. People "cheat" for different reasons. If you've ever cheated then honestly answer the question for yourself. Bottom line is if you cheat something was wrong. One poster said a cheater is looking for revenge, attention, or excitement. That's close. Another said cheater's are missing something at home. Another said cheater's aren't ready to commit. These are all good answers, but it all depends. You can't generalize the cheater. The only person that said anything remotely truthful (though it didn't answer the question) is that men and women both cheat. I think that's the right first step. Once you understand that both men and women cheat and you stop trying to dog one gender over the other, then guess what poster...You have the answer. You ask why do men cheat on women, and what happened to love. Why don't you answer that, since you cheated on him TOO. What happened to love?
The poster who replied humans are not naturally monogomous. You're abosolutely right, but when you get two people mature enough and selfless enough then a monogomous relationship can work. The keyword is trust. Genuine trust. Not just a watered down cliche of a word, but real genuine trust. This relationship doesn't seem to have it. Another poster said there's never a reason to cheat. That's correct, there's the excuse you tell yourself that makes it OK, but the truth is if you really love someone and you genuinely trust that person and they return it, then there is no reason to cheat.
I hope that answers your question. The posters that said move on, are absolutely right, move on. Learn from this, evaluate yourself...and move on. Because ultimately the trust has already been shattered in this relationship. Good Luck. And don't always be quick to point the finger, especially when you're just as guilty.
2006-12-21 12:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chaney34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason for cheating if both of you love each other deeply.
Love is caring about the other person's welfare more than one's own and bringing out the best in one another..
I he cheated on you while you both were in a relationship, there was most likely something lacking in it, and since he acted on it (in a very irresponsible way) by cheating on you with another girl -- then maybe it wasn't truly love.
There's this thing called trust in a realtionship -- if he broke it, he definitely chose to --and that in itself is disgusting.
On the otherhand if you cheated on him and then got over it like that -- why are you still pursuing this realtionship?
2006-12-21 12:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by okailie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you get it ? He knows how to get you in bed by saying I love you. Girl you better learn how to be a PLAYER don't let this men fool you. First don't you ever show weakeness on a men RULE MUMBER 1of being a lady player even in a relation you have to play tough on this machos. Men can't stand a woman with strong feelings.. it makes them want you more.Now about you cheating... what you did is revenge that teaches him that you could do it too because you proved to him that he isn't the only one that could please you.Besides men in jail don't care about females they just want someone to send them money in jail yeap they will say anything like " i luv u " or " I have change. " when they come out they act like the old self.Girl just email me...
2006-12-21 12:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that all men and women cheat, but for the ones who do...they really don't know what they want. They don't respect LOVE or themselves. They take people and things for granted. They are unappreciative of the fact that someone truly loves and cares them. They're greedy, envious and selfish. They're never satisfied. They are self absorbed and the only feelings that matter are there own.
2006-12-21 12:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Extraordinary Woman~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men cheat on us b/c they are missing something. I did it too this summer I cheated on my bf b/c he was treating me badly by playing games like asking me what I would say "if" he cheated on me. And then I would call myself fat just to see what he would say and he said "I'll by u lipo, the pills, and I'll probably be broke when were done". And then when he came back from camping he told me he met a few girls and he swares nothing happened. Then when him and I broke-up he told my friend that he got e-mails from those girls. I call that cheating. And he told me he loved me more than anything. And I did to but he dumped me and he is still mad at me for cheating. And I can't stay mad at him.
2006-12-21 12:24:23 · answer #6 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in the saying once a cheater always a cheater. I feel there is no excuse for cheating. You need to decide right now though what you want to do.
2006-12-21 12:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by Stacy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a theory (that it's a demon... a dancing demon, no wait, something isn't right there) that humans are not truly monogamous. i think it's instilled in us as children how we're supposed to be in relationships and while that programming may work for some, it's really going against nature.
as for what happened to love... nothing. sex and love are two separate things. now you can use sex as a means of expressing love but the two are not interchangeable.
2006-12-21 12:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying --Why buy the cow when the milk is for free---Its so true and at one time or another we all do it--give our all to someone and they take advantage of it because there is no commitment ---If this man went to jail for a year I would say that you should redirect your attention to someone who is worthy--
2006-12-21 12:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating isn't about love. It doesn't really matter how much you love the person you're with or not.
Usually when people cheat it's because they want excitement, revenge, or attention. It's about carnal desires and giving in to them.
2006-12-21 12:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋