Ok so I met this kid about a week ago, he is 18, one year older than me. I thought he was really nice and he is so sweet but well lets just say I got to know him a little better. He gets really mad when I mention other guys, he says he knows they are just friends but he just dosen't want to hear about them, He gets frustrated really easily, and he is well lets just say really experienced.
Despite all that I can't help myself from likeing him. He is so sweet and says he really likes me and travels like 45 min every day just to see me. He always compliments me and keeps saying he wants to be with me but it is quite evident he has alot of issues. He has talked to my mom and told her he wants to sit down and talk to her about "our relationship" and his intentions What do you think I should do and what do you think his true intentions are?
2006-12-21 04:11:10 · 10 answers · asked by xxblissfulxsinxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think his true intentions are to be as controlling as possible. Your first clue should have been his getting mad at your talking to male friends.
What you are seeing is NOT the real guy. You are falling for a public face, that he wears over his real one...and his real one is damn nasty! He will quickly escalate to "forbidding" you to talk to other guys. Then he will be hitting you "for your own good" when he decides you've broken one of his rules. And he WILL alientate you from your family as well, if you let this go on much longer.
Dump him. Don't take any more calls from him. Hopefully he won't turn into a stalker, but don't count on it.
Why is he driving that far just to have a girlfriend? Just how much trouble is he in, in his home town? I would call the local sheriff's office in his town, and find out if he has a record. Be up front and honest with the police. Tell them that some things he is doing are making you very leary, and you wanted to know if there are issues you should be aware of. If they're not too busy, they should be willing to help you.
But, bottom line, girl....GET OUT NOW!!
2006-12-21 04:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are concerned about this guy. He has sparked your interest as well. Although all the great things that you have learned about him, there seems to be some awkward things that you don't seem to be comfortable with. What worries me is that you met him a week ago, he is telling you what to do and how to do it(that can lead to so much more), he feels comfortable talking to your mom in an "adult situation" about his "intentions"??? WTF!?!?!?!
Like I said, you know there is something wrong. If you have a doubt, back off. If he's the one you want you will accept is abnormal behavior has beautiful and one of kind that only you can adore. :D
As far as advice...please stop seeing him. He is interesting and experienced, but that doesn't make him the perfect guy for you. From experience, if you don't stop seeing him now, the controlling will become so structured and confined that he won't let you leave him. It may be hard to leave him now, but he's not attached yet. Just wait....if you decide to stay with him, he will get your mother involved and try toget her on his side(not on your side...get it). Like he is trying to do now. He is trying to butter up your mom so that you see how mature and manly he is. Unless the two of you are about to be engaged, this man should not be telling your mom his intentions...unless she comes out and asks him. Which if she ever did, it was because she felt something was awkward too.
Something in his childhood or past relationships has made him this way....karma is the only thing that will make him change...NOT YOU.
This sounds so dramatic, I know...but it's cause and effect.
2006-12-21 12:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Her Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first if he starts telling you can't see your friends ( I know because i have nothing but guys friends) leave him. he is already monitoring where you go so he knows where you at all times. talking to your MOM, all he is doing is sucking up to her so when a problem comes up she can say you deserve it. No 18 year boy of this day and age do that stuff with out having a agenda. this boy did that to my sister and she was stupid enough sleep with him and he left her (now is she menatlly screwed up). If he lift his hand up to hit you. call the police and run like hell. Get away from him. Wait until your 21 where the guys are real men and not little boys wanting too much attention and to have sex with you and leave.
2006-12-21 12:24:32 · answer #3 · answered by ezekiel's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of that one sweetie. he sounds like a control freak. those are the ones that always end up hurting you...mentally and physically. he may seem like a great guy, but that all changes once he feels he "owns" you. him telling you he doesn't want to hear about your guy friends is a big warning plus you said he has issues... another red flag... then to talk to your mom about his intensions... sounds like a master at this... he wants on your mom's good side so if he does anything to you ou will either hesitate to tell your mother or something else... that is strike 3 baby you need to run and don't look back... you can find a good guy that wants to be your friend and friends with your friends and doesn't have all the issues... be careful, be safe, and most of all be smart! good luck!
2006-12-21 12:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by B-Diddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give a jealous guy the time of day. My advice is to break up with him and run for the hills. There is nothing you can do to change jealousy and he is very possessive. In the real world you can't live like that. Dump him and move on to someone with more security. If he has issues, he will always be insecure.
2006-12-21 12:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't mind being treated like a possesion then go for it. Sounds like that is the direction it's headed twords. He sounds really nice but really jealous and soon he may say you can't hang out with any of your guy friends and try to control you.
2006-12-21 12:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the beginning of a abusive relationship! I would take it slow for now if you want to be with him but do not commit to him right away. Keep your options open. Your only 17 for Pete's sake!
2006-12-21 12:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.
he seems like a nice guy, but he doesn't seem emotionally stable. if i were you, i wouldn't be too involed with him. you may end up being abused, or taking care of him, which i'm sure you don't want to do, being in your teenage years. he has a lot of baggage it seems, a little more then you may be able to carry for him.
he seems like he has good intentions, but intentions arn't enough to hold a relationship.
go out and have fun. don't worry about this guy, or else you may miss all the great things you can do.
2006-12-21 12:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by poprocksncoke030 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the fact that he wants to talk to your mom is a good sign if he was only out for the panties he would not be trying to make nice with mom and also maybe you should not talk about other guys to him how would you like if he talked about other girls to you think about it
2006-12-21 12:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast and as far away as you can. If you only met him one week ago and he's being that controlling, you don't want anything to do with him. He will make your life miserable.
2006-12-21 12:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋