And he asks YOU for money?
Why or why not?
2006-12-21 04:07:02 · 26 answers · asked by ♥Ms. Heart♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not a lady, but if the reason he's out of work is because he's lazy, then you should not stay with him. If he's hurt or cannot find a job, then you should help him out and be patient. Good luck!
2006-12-21 04:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if we were already together and he had a job but lost it, YES. But on the condition that he was actively seeking employment. I have no sympathy for a grown man laying around all day while I'm out busting my behind working. I don't think much of anyone mooching off another person, much less someone claiming to be a MAN, but yet has no shame and asks me for money. A real MAN would get up every morning and be out trying to find a job no matter where he has to go or what he has to do. MEN provide for the family, are suppose to be the head of the household. So what kind of example would that be setting if there are small children involved, especially young males. As long as he knows he can come to you, he will always have his hand out. I am sure you have other responsibilities to worry about and instead of working with you to find the solutions, he is adding to the problem. Women are natural nurturer's that's what has been instilled in us since we were little girls playing with baby dolls and watching younger siblings, so you feel an obligation to take care of your MAN when he has fallen on hard times, which is only right, unless he doesn't seem like he is making an attempt to get back up. That's when you know you have got to lose the dead weight before it eventually begins to brings you down with it. There is nothing wrong with sticking by your MANs side, but make sure it's the right MAN you trying to stick by. All the best.
2006-12-21 12:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by TRUTH HURTZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The typical woman will say no but I like to look at situations from other perspectives. Of course if your independent and you take care of your financial obligations, then your guy should have the same responsibility especially if you live with your mate. But just because he doesn't have a job doesn't necessarily means hes immature, lazy and irresponsible. Some guys may have a passion for a certain hobby and likes to put his time and effort into that. For example if he wants to pursue his dreams of becoming a rapper. He may have to sacrifice having a 9 to 5 to pursue his dreams. Or maybe he is not stable right now but his trying to get back on his feet. Some men need that extra support system to motivate him. Not to say that he shouldn't already be motivated and passionate but having a strong woman by his side can help. Now if he doesn't seem like he has some type of direction in his life then I say leave but I believe in chances and there are many reasons why he may not have a job. I say give it some time. But do express how you feel and be open with him. He may be a moocher, or just a guy trying to find his place in life. It is up to you if you feel like you can stick around or leave.
2006-12-21 12:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Babyluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he out of job for a long time and never bother to look for a job ? Has he been asking for money or just one time to meet some urgent needs ? I would stay put with this guy if he is honestly looking for a job. I am also willing to finance him if he is sincere and need the money to settle important, urgent issues and not for flirting, gambling, smoking or drinking.
2006-12-21 12:13:08 · answer #4 · answered by burr burr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the circumstances. There are those who are physically disabled. Sure, they can collect Social Security or some other type of disability insurance.
It's the reason(s) why the individual is out of work and what he's doing with his time that matters. Disabled and having a hobby that turns into profit - fine.
Disabled and sucking it all up - no! If the brain is still working I encourage the guy (anyone for that fact) to use it.
2006-12-21 12:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how long you've been together with him. If he has had a job and for whatever reason is have difficultly finding another than its understandable to lend a hand to him.
But if he is one of those guys who is bouncing from job to job and can't seen to stay steady the hun you gotta let this guy go. If he can't keep on his feet and is out of job than he ain't worth your time or money.
2006-12-21 12:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dating is a way for you to decide what kind of guy u'd like to marry and spend ur life with. And marrige is an equal partnership. If he can't equally support u either with money or work around the house then he is not someone u probably could imagine spending the rest of your life with. Only u can tell though. Good Luck.
2006-12-21 12:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by hail_jimmy_twinkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. There is no excuse for an abled-person not having a job. Even if he was layed off or can't find a job in his particular field, there are temp agencies. All work is honorable if it puts food on the table for his family.
2006-12-21 12:14:19 · answer #8 · answered by pathfindercia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The man is the main supporter in the family. You should be the one asking him for money, not the other way around. If he cant support you now, will he be able to in the future?
2006-12-21 12:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Ariel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! If he doesn't have a job and is asking you for money it probably means he's not responsible!
I think a lack of personal responsibility is DEFINITELY a dealbreaker!!!
2006-12-21 12:14:23 · answer #10 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋