My ex and i broke up 2 years ago (he was cheating on me, and yes, he is still with her). We have dealt with each other off and on for about a year now. He says he wants to be "cordial", but everytime i call him, he has some excuse for not wanting to talk to me (he's busy at work, he has company, he's driving, his cell battery is dying, he has no minutes left on his phone, etc). So, i gradually stopped calling him,since it seemed he didn't want to be bothered anyway. But then he turns around and calls me at 1:00am to tell me "good night"--WTF?? Yesterday he called me to "say hi and see how i was doing". He only calls about once a week, but i don't see why he calls me at all. Obviously he doesn't want to talk when i call him, and he has a girlfriend anyway. He also tells me to "leave him alone" whenever we get into an arguement about something. OK i leave him alone, but he ALWAYS starts calling me again EVENTUALLY. What the f!@# is wrong with him? What should i do when he calls?
2006-12-21 04:01:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Change your number. Takes about 1/2 an hour.
2006-12-21 04:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by parkdad73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His new relationship is probably not that secure.
His is stringing you along just in case things dont work out.
You are probably the best friend he has ever had but he will never see that.
He does not want to let you go because he is selfish and he knows you still care.
He keeps calling you because he wants you to think he still cares so you dont have a chance to move on.
Change your phone number and please do yourself a favor and forget about this guy.
Dont be his pawn and keep allowing him to disrespect you this way.
Dont let him rob you of the happiness that awaits you.
2006-12-21 12:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were in your position, I would stop answering his calls, maybe talk to him one more time, and tell him that since he can't seem to make up his mind, that you're going to make the decision, and break all contact. if he calls, don't answer, if you answer by mistake (say he calls at 1:00 am, and you just grab the phone) then just hang up... he'll get the point. if he show's up, tell him to leave.
i dono what to suggest other then just breaking off all contact... if he has a problem with this, try asking his girlfriend why he's alwas acting this way to you??
2006-12-21 12:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone, he is just keeping the door open in case things don't work out with the new girlfriend, so help him close the door by not answering the phone
2006-12-21 12:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by 3262m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the same Bullsh*t. Tell him his own excuses and just hang up.
Better yet, tell him you're currently at home alone with someone on a dinner date and you do not wish to be bother since you are busy. =D
2006-12-21 12:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your number and move on Hun hes no good for you hey ! don't you want to be number one in your partners life well obviously that's not the case here he has a girl and only uses you when hes not getting his whole fix from her ! you can do so much better ! move on forget about him OK it will be best for you i am sure of that!
2006-12-21 12:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by sadeyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend trouble so he calls you, makes him feel secure, or wanted or missed. He might be keeping you around just in case. Best to change your number and forget about him. I like to live by the saying, "treat others as you would like to be treated" also "do onto others as they do onto you."
2006-12-21 12:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he want to keep you around in case he breaks it up with his girlfriend. He also likes to keep you attached. I would do what he does, say your busy, no minutes left, don't answer the phone. Blow him off. He also wants to be in control.
2006-12-21 12:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like my ex bf.
he still has feelings for you but he has a gf he is one of those type of guys that think they can have the cake and eat it to but that doesn't work
so the best thing i could tell you is to not answer his phone calls bc its going to be a constant thing. and you just really need to move on you can find better
he is just lost and dont know what he wants
2006-12-21 12:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like the excitement, and he seems to want to keep you hanging on. Change your number, it was his choice to leave you so his loss. Cut all ties completely
2006-12-21 12:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋