I see a man at work occasionally who I am very attracted to. I think he is attracted to me too but I'd like some opinions on this. The last time I saw him he was really really busy but seemed to have all the time in the world to talk with me. He said he liked my top and we chatted about the bands we both like.(Our musical tastes are exactly the same) I told him that I had split up with my boyfriend and he smiled and looked down. I told him I had got into Uni and he seemed really proud of me and we talked loads about it. (He has been himself) We hardly said much about the work topic that I went in to see him for which was really very important! As I left he was really smiley and told me to have a lovely christmas. This thing has been going on for some time but sometimes he seems a bit nervous around me and if I stand close to him and look into his eyes he looks down and sorta blushes and seems a little tongue tied. He never moves away though. Do you think he likes me like that?
2006-12-21 03:52:21 · 36 answers · asked by Michele 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah, i think he does. If you make a guy nervous there is always a reason.
2006-12-21 03:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lek 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult to be objective when the love bug strikes, Michelle, but while I do hope that what you have found here is the real thing, you must be careful that you're not letting your heart rule your head. His friendliness towards you may well be indicative that he is interested in you romantically, but I would urge you to be every bit as prepared for it to be just an indication of his naturally friendly nature towards everyone in general.
Be sure that you are not simply throwing yourself at this guy because you are on the rebound from a broken relationship before putting your heart on the line again. It is so easy to think when you have broken up with someone that the best thing to do is go straight into another serious relationship with someone else as soon as possible. More often than not, this practice ends in tears.
So take time to suss out whether his downward looks and blushes when you look into his eyes are simply indications that he is shy in the company of an attractive woman like you, and not in fact because he doesn't know how to tell you that he is already taken without hurting your feelings. Just take your time, Michelle; don't rush in to anything rashly at the moment. Just concentrate on being friends and romance will blossom in the fullness of time if he is genuinely single.
Good luck, Michelle! I hope it works out how you want it to.
2006-12-21 04:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by colliedug111060 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he single? He's either very comfortale with you because he doesn't fancy you at all or he really does loads. But stop trying to stare into his eyes like that - I think anyone would look away and feel nervous - don't freak him out!
Do you guys ever go out with work together - seems like you need to spend time away from the office and see if he does feel the same way.
Don't go rushing in though and doing anything cazy - we women can be terrible at reading or over-reading the signs. Try to build up a really good friendship and wait and see....unless you go out for a work do - get drunk and throw yourself at him which is the other option!!
Whatever - have fun sounds exciting!
2006-12-21 04:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Philadelphia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes. Is he unattached? If so, I think it may be up to you to push things forward a bit.
The situation you describe sounds exactly like the way in which my partner and I got together (at work).
I've always been a shy lad and used to spend ages talking to her at work. It just felt so natural. She was going though a divorce at the time and she told me later that the chats we had helped her keep sane and realise that not all men were idiots.
We just celebrated our 8th anniversary last month. Without doubt, they have been the best years of my life so far. I can't imagine living my life without her. He sounds like a decent bloke (i.e. not full of himself). If you like him, do yourself (and him) a favour and ask him out.
2006-12-21 04:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you, any guy that takes the time out of his busy day to talk to you and pay you attention likes you. The blushing and looking down are nervous habits guys have when they like a girl.
2006-12-21 04:06:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sam s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is chemestry there. Ask him if he would like to go for a coffee after work and see what happens he may be more inclined to agree to coffee than if you come out and ask him to go on a full blown date. Remember big oaks grow from small acorns. Good luck x x x
2006-12-21 03:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he does like you alot but just as a heads up be careful putting together your personal life and your buisness life.It could turn out to be very messy.But if you do decide to date or w/e then make sure yall learn how to keep business time STRICTLY business time.Be careful and good luck!
2006-12-21 03:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel Hillhouse`s Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but there seems to be a confidence/fear of rejection issue on his part (or he's married). So it looks like the ball's in your court if you want anything to happen. Ask him out or go get drunk together, should solve the problem.
2006-12-21 04:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Genetically Modified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....just suck it up and ask him out....ask him if he'd like to join you at a concert for one of those bands you both love. You'll have to pick up the cost for the tickets if he says yes...but say something like, "Hey, (so-and-so band) is coming to concert on (so-and-so date) at (so-and-so location). I'll get the tickets if you buy the drinks at the show? Are you interested?"
More than likely it will work ;-) Good luck!
2006-12-21 03:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously tries to make the effort to talk to you even when he is really busy and he always smiles at you and blushes! I'd say he definately likes you! You lucky girl!
2006-12-21 03:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by ChunkyMonkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just snog him I would thats what miseltoe is for get it out and give him a snog, he definately likes you its really obvious,
If your a little shy too just casualy ask him if he would like to go for a drink after work??
He can only say no cant he and im sure he wont,
You go girlxxx
2006-12-21 03:58:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋