Do you HATE your mother in law!?

Question

know its common , its as easy to as your abc and 123, I know many women who HATE their mother in law - I always said I wouldn't - always said I would be fair and nice because she brought up the man I love, but I can't help it - the hate has crept in I can't stand the woman and at times would gladly have her put down!!

even the smallest things she does incense me - like how she loves it if my fella has a hole in his work jeans, she tuts at me and makes him take them off so she can patch them????!! he has 50 pairs of jeans at home that he doesn't wear and could wear for work but she makes me feel like I am a bad woman for not sewing them for him!! I would if he wanted me to though!! she does plenty more than just that but you'd think I was mad if I started!!!!

so come on guys make me feel better and tell me ALL about your monster in law and what she does that pis*ses you off the most!!! The most cringeworthy answer gets the points - the one that makes me feel better off!!!

I should probably add that I am female!!! I find the majority of males like their in laws, its the females who hate theirs!!!

ahhh and another things she does - my step daughter - whom I love like my own - she wants to be in charge and have all of her sons time that he gets with his daughter which isn't loads and she thinks that I shouldn't have anything to do with her and that I take her time away from her grandchild because when my fella works and I look after her she thinks she should be doing it - my fella believes me to be a great step mum and is more than happy for me to look after her - and I am brilliant friends with my SD'd mum too - she also HATES his parents !!LOL!! - MIL also DEMANDS all the time that she wants her grand daughter, which means Mark, my fella misses out on having her, she is obsessed with the grandchildren and only ever wants to baby them!! my SD is now 3 and Grandma still tries to spoon feed her and tried to give her baby bottles even though she doesn't have them!! she also still sits her in a high chair???!!! stupid STUPID STUPID woman!! sorry I am ranting!!!!! LOL!! feels GREAT!

Answer 1

I can't stand my MIL either. I think the worst thing she ever did was kick a gift we gave her back across the floor at us, saying she already had one and asked me loudly (it was a gift from my husband and me) "don't you remember I told you about this, I already have one".
She's Satan incarnate, that woman.
Oh she also has given my hb specific things to take home when we visit ("here's a cake for, here's a canteloupe for" hb).
Oh and 6 weeks after I had our second child she told me my weight was "off" and that was why I had been ill. I about slapped her. Honest.
She has been to see our two children (she lives 2 hours away) 8 times in 3 years. They never ever call to find out how they are.
She isn't smiling in any of our wedding pics, not surprised, are you?
We were visiting them one time and she told me to get up and make my hb eggs. I told her that if he wanted eggs, he'd get up and make them. She jumped up, called me lazy and proceeded to cook him eggs over his protests.
She is just a hateful woman, just like your MIL...just take comfort in knowing that on Saturday I will be spending an entire day with that witch....ugh. Oh well, it's over until next year.

Answer 2

I am not sure what it is with mother-in-laws but it seems as if they are competing with you for the #1 woman position in a man's life. They just can't seem to understand that your man can love you both. How degrading to the guy!
Over 20 years I have struggled with my mother- in-law in many of the same ways as you and more. It's their job to inerfere and make things difficult!
But, with time, it does get a little better. They finally seem to let it sink in that "my son chose this woman and she's not going anywhere". But I know it never goes away totally. There is always a part of the "mother knowes best" scenario playing out in the relationship.
On the brighter side, I love my son in law and we share many interests. I also trust my step daughters judgements when it comes to people and I don't interfere in their marriage (even when asked for advice which is another word for trouble lol).
It's frustrating and agrivating. Maybe try a little less to get along because your fighting elements far greater then yourself. You could have wings and a halo and she'd still find a way to discount you. It's the nature of the beast, in a manner of speaking
Good luck.

Answer 3

I don't want to say I "hate" my mother-in-law, but I have come close. What I have to do is try to remember my husband does love her and it makes him unhappy if I hate her. But she is the weirdest woman I have ever met. She was widowed very young and made my husband into the man of the house at the age of 7. She seems to see me as "the other woman". She refused to come to our wedding. I used to clean the house top to bottom when she came to visit (lives 3 hours away), but then she'd turn my chair over and vacuum under it. She always found something that wasn't clean enough for her. Thankfully she doesn't visit anymore.

The worse thing she did was treat my two sons (her step-grandchildren) like second rate citizens while treating my daughter (bio-grandchild) like a princess. She caused a rift between my younger son and my daughter for a long time, and I think that's the worst thing she did. When my daughter got old enough to know what's going on, though, she started to withdraw from her grandmother. She said it made her very uncomfortable to be treated better than her brothers because she loves them. She rarely has anything to do with the woman now, and of course, my boys despise her. It's sad.

I would like to learn how to love my mother-in-law. I try really hard at times, but then she does or says something else and I have to start all over again. I think I have just learned to tolerate her. Good luck with yours and email me if you ever learn to deal with it.

Answer 4

I don't hate her but I do hate some of the things she does!!! I hate the way she plays favorites (of which my husband is not one of) yet when she wants or needs something done she asks my husband to do it. She plays favorites with the grandchildren. My sister-in-laws kids can do no wrong and are always spending the weekends with her but she has never asked for our kids to stay (unless the other kids are bored). She is very narrow-minded and thinks she's always right and that her opinion is the only one that matters and anyone who disagrees with her (like I do LOL) doesn't know what they are talking about. Even Christmas revolves around my brother-in-law. He lives a mere 2 hrs. away. He is the only one who has to travel. The rest of the family live locally yet we always have to wait for him even if it inconveniences the rest of us. She doesn't care about the fact that I have a family that my husband and I need to spend time with. Luckily my parents know her and understand the way she is but it still makes it difficult to try to spend equal time with both families. I'm done now and I didn't do it for the points. It's just nice to be able to talk about this with others who have the same problem!

Answer 5

I doubt if you know my mother in law, so I would say that you do not hate her.

Answer 6

I don't hate mine, I just get really, really, really, annoyed by her. She's made him 3 Christmas cakes because I said I won't make them because I don't like them! Really, 3! It's the way they make you feel as though you don't look after them well enough though isn't it? I mean their grown up, does she really think that I pick our his outfit in the morning- its not my fault if he picked one up that isn't ironed, honestly!

There was something my mum told me when my mother-in-law-to-be had a run in and it was
"A daughter is a daughter for life, but a son is only a son until he takes a wife"
Very true I think mothers feel like their loosing their sons to us and in a way they are, hes all mine now!!! Ha ha ha

Answer 7

I hated my first mother in law..well not hate directly but she was the type that visited and "took over" wether is was the kids, the kitchen or what not, my ex was a control freak also.

I dearly love my second mother in law. The is kind and respectful and just sweet all the way around, sweet like my husband :)

Answer 8

Well my mil and fil came into our home and broke everything in our home trying to get my husband to leave me and move back in with them, and slapped and pulled my sister's earring out of her ear I beat up mil and they still contintue to act as if nothing happend with my husband they guilt him into thinking that every old person in their family is going to pass away by next christmas, so that he needs to be there, oh yeah the only reason they came into our home and did that was ... here it goes.... he spent half of thanksgiving with MY family I guess they wanted the whole day, shoot they're even lucky I am letting him go christmas, but you see, they still have a hold over my husband, they're horrible OUT laws

Answer 9

I agree. my mother and father in law are very good and sweet people and like you i always told myself that i would always be nice, polite and fair sometimes though they really get to me. more when it comes to my kids Rather than my husband like when we are all out and i am holding my little girls hand my father in law will say stop holding her hand or if i lift her up , he will say 'put her down'. they are constantly questioning me when it come to my kids asking me why i do this with them and why i do that. Once they gave my son some alcohol he was only 3 at the time i was so angry then my husband fell out with me because i was angry with his mum and dad, its really annoying. His mum complains about me to my husband sometimes and he always takes her side . it really pis*es me off.

Answer 10

My mother in law is a sweet lady, however...she does have her son over once a week and not with me or our children. I think this is totally F$%^&* up...and would never do this to my kids and their spouses... what is wrong with people these days the time we need to bond we just grow further apart..??