I have a little girl named Lily who was a huge liar. She always lied and I always caught her lying. I then told her that lying is wrong and now she has stopped.
My wife told me a few days ago that LIly is old enough now to be told about Santa Clause. My wife is telling me to lie to my child about Santa Clause.
I am afraid because as Lily grows up she may learn that Santa Clause is not real and if she realizes that I lied to her then she has no reason to believe anything I say. Using me as a role model, she may even begin to lie again thinking it's perfectly okay because I did it.
I told my wife that I planned to tell Lily the truth, that Santa Clause is made up but my wife and the rest of my family were all horrified at me.
Since my wife thinks lying is okay then I plan to lie to her and tell her that I am not going to tell Lily that Santa is fake but I actually will and I will tell Lily to keep it a secret. Is this a good idea?
2006-12-21 03:39:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you don't say in your post how old lily is...but in my opinion you don't TELL a child about santa not being real. you wait until they ASK you. that way, no one is lying to anyone...and it lets her know that you are the type of parent that will tell her the truth if she asks you a question. so just wait until she asks you. besides, she probably hears things at school already. there is no reason to take away the excitement of christmas for a child.
p.s. and NOT a good idea to tell your child to keep a secret from her mother.
2006-12-21 03:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by BJC 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Wow! What a spot you are in.
Well, don't worry because you Don't have to lie to her because the is "some" truth about Santa Clause.
1# This whole thing started because there was a Saint Nick (a monk) that went around his town to help out the poor children with food and clothing to be able to have something nice during the cold winter months.
You or I can look things up on-line to gets more detail of it and you can tell your little girl about it.
Then since human being only last sssooo long maybe there is a story where someone else pick up where st. nick left off when he die.
2# If you can find the famous" Yes, Virgina there is a Santa Clause" it might helps a bit more there.
3# Just remember how your parents explain it to you when you were a kid? Mmmm.. I'm still waiting for my mom to talk to me on that one..lol
4# This was going to be the one I would say if I ever had a kid. After all these info and then explain that sometimes all the different Santa Claus that you see in the store or mall are really Santa's Elves to help out the Big guy with the list and finds out who's been good or bad they will sometime talk to parents about update of the year as such. Which in a way is true??? And when you gets older you will become one of those parent and take on the responsibilities of making sure to have a good Christmas.
2006-12-21 04:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by bottom dollar 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Um, no?
If you are really concerned about Lily being able to discern a lie from "pretend," then tell her the truth. If she doesn't already know about Santa, then telling her the truth won't shock her. Simply tell her that a lot of people believe Santa exists, but you appreciate her efforts to be truthful, so you are going to be truthful with her. Make sure to emphasize the importance of the spirit of Christmas, giving gifts, etc. I had plenty of exciting and memorable Christmases after I found out the big guy isn't real. But don't lie to your wife...not if you're so concerned with the truth.
2006-12-21 04:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You like spanking cross-dressers, and your worried about parents telling their kids about Santa Clause. I'm missing something. Does your church know about you? It sounds like your parents don't even know about that, I assume because reading some of your past questions and answers, you're too eager to point the figure at someone else. So tell me, HOW DO YOU JUSTIFY TO GOD what you do. Your the reason why people don't come to church anymore, because if a Christian can think like this, then whats the difference between the life now or giving to God. I don't expect you to answer me, you may even report me because I prove the truthful facts to your face.
2016-05-23 05:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lie to your child about Santa Claus.
Tell her the truth, it is just a made up name and people use it to make toy sales during the Christmas season.
When in reality, Jesus is the reason we are celebrating Christmas.
We are not celebrating Santa Clause.
2006-12-21 05:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by beagle1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally dont want to lie to my kid either. I think its really really stupid. I want to tell my kid Santa is not real, but I cant because then my kid will tell the other kids and then I will get headache calls from other parents. I dont think Lily will be able to keep her secret. Also, she wont have fun because the other kids will be all excited about Santa and she wont be able to share that experience. Its kinda like telling Clark Kent to keep his secret about being superman. It will be hard on her.
2006-12-21 05:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't tell her! That is the most disappointing thing to a child, to find out that Santa isn't real. She will discover it on her own, but you don't have to ruin the spirit of Christmas. I understand why you would want to, but by telling her, you're not helping the situation at all.
2006-12-24 05:21:28 · answer #7 · answered by agnusgirl101 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is the kid?
Thats the major part of the issue that you left out. Under 7, i wouldnt tell her. Let her have fun with it and enjoy it. Its really not that big fo an issue or a actual "Lie". Its part of being a kid and growing up. Generally when a kid gets around 7 they start to figure it out on their own anyways. Just let her be a kid and enjoy Christmas.
2006-12-21 03:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can you expect your children to have any confidence in whatever you teach them, when they find you have lied deliberately to them for years about Santa Claus -- and during those years you punish THEM for telling untruths? Please tell her,I never believed in Santa my parents told me the truth and believe me i wasn't missing anything.
2006-12-21 04:23:59 · answer #9 · answered by Elisha S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Once they ask, tell them the truth. Until then it is just a game.
When my mother told me at age 9, after she had denied it previously when I asked, that also for all time made me an atheist.
I accepted that 'grown ups' are liars and one better be prepared to question all the BS they condition one for. It has served me well. ;-)
2006-12-21 04:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋