How can I tell my ex b/f that ive found someone else?

Question

I left my b/f yesterday after many issues with non trust, jealousy, not wanting to work, well to tell you the truth hes physco. I have been spending alot of time with one of our friends and we have become very close,he knew our problems and saw things happening . Now how do i explain this to my ex. The ex keeps calling and begging but my feelings are gone for him. Remember hes a mental patient.

Answer 1

First off get your number changed and never give it to your ex,your ex is a ex for a reason,in order to fully move on with your life do not communicate with him.Seems he's only messing with your head and you will never be able to move on with your life as long as you continue to communicate with your ex.He doesn't need to know your with some one new its none of his business as it isn't none of yours if hes with some one else.Unless you two have a great friendship which i dont see this being the case due to the statements you provided that led up to the break up in the first place,i wouldn't think you would need to tell him anything period.Do yourself a favor and move on and leave him in the past.Its not fair to your new b/f and your new relationship to be bringing the past into it.

Answer 2

Be very careful. I've seen situations like this and they can turn nasty.

The first thing you have to do is completely terminate your relationship with the psycho. Stop taking his calls, stop talking with him. If you need to get a restraining order, then do so. Do not give him any details of your personal life at all. It is none of his business.

Every time you talk to him, take his calls, engage him in any kind of interaction you are giving him the false hope that you will get back together. You need to make it quite clear that things are over between you. If you keep taking his calls or talking with him not only does it empower him to keep chasing you, but it also jeopardizes your future relationships. No guy wants to be with some girl who has a crazy psycho ex-boyfriend in the picture.

At the first sign of trouble, call the cops. Document anything your ex does to you, in case it ends up in court or him doing something stupid.

Just for future reference you made several mistakes here. You did betray your boyfriend's trust by spending too much time with this other guy, that you clearly had feelings for. What ever problems your ex has, you obviously helped fuel them with your behavior. So many of your problems are self inflicted. When your ex finds out that you got with one of his friends the day after you broke up with him, he is going to feel completely justified in his distrust for you. He is going to assume you were cheating on him.

Finally, you should also bare in mind that some guys get girls by being the understanding shoulder to cry on. You may think this new guy understands you so well because he was there for you and seemed to listen and care. So he may not be as good as you think he is once you get to know him. But it is still better than dating a crazy person, so stick with that and see what happens. At worse, you can just use this new guy as a rebound guy until you find someone better.

Answer 3

Couple of things lady.
First if he's a mental patient, you need to be patient as well. Don't tell him anything right now. You may want to meet him in public but not in private and gently hint that things are not the same.
Ensure that he's under some sort of treatment simultaneously.
In case the hurt is too deep and too new, then just avoid him for a while. Else the above would hold

Answer 4

Lay it on the line, honestly and respectfully: "Our relationship is no longer going in a positive direction and I lost all faith in it some time ago. I now wish to make a new start and have met someone very special." You only need to have that conversation once. After that, he can beg all he wants.

Answer 5

You don't owe your ex boyfriend any explanation. Stop taking the phone calls and messages. Shut the door and walk away. If he is mental the last thing you want to do is antagonize him.
For the record.... you moved on way to fast.... no grass grew under your bed..... wow talk about a rebound relationship...

Answer 6

You do not have to tell him. Once you are broken up, your personal lives become personal again. It's tough dealing with a mental patient because they don't really mean to be the way they are, but you have to take care of you first.

Answer 7

Just politely and as calmly as possible say, Things just aren't working out with us. We have tried and gave it a good go but it's just not a loving healthy relationship. We need to move on and see other people who fit out personalities better. You will always have a special place in my heart but lets not drag this pain out any longer than is necessary.

But one questions comes to my mind. Why were you dating a mental patient?????? uh hello, here's your sign!

Answer 8

Why does a guy have to be so perfect. Your ex really loved you, U dumbo, cant you see it, probably his first true attachment. He is probably looking at a lifetime comitment. GO back to him. Nobody else will luv you so much.

If you dump your ex, his genuine feelings will be lost forever. He will soon become another cold manipulator, girls find so attractive and understanding.

This common friend of yours is just a scavenger of relationships, I feel he is the one who has poisoned your ex's brains.

GO BACK TO YOUR EX BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE B A B Y !! GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

sometimes with people like that the best thing to do is cut contact completely. Being their friend, althought it may look good in your eye, can actually hurt them more because theyll still feel that connection with you when its not really "there". you have to treat people like that like children. Just like you'd shield a child away from harm by keeping them ignorant of certain things that go on in the world so they do not lose their innocence, same thing with your ex. just cut it out completely. hell be more hurt having you halfway and seeing u occupied with someone else. just leave him in the unknown and he will live with it better.

Answer 10

You dont have to tell him anything and trust me you dont want to...because you will just cause more problems for yourself and the new guy. I was in a relationship for almost 3 years and everything your talkin about i have been through....so my advise get away from him...change your number...cause he is not going to stop calling...I had to....You will have to be mean to him because in this situation you cant be nice and you need to get out and stay away from him. Trust me on this one.