Ofcourse at 12 or 13 or 14 years old, you can't really be in love, with at some point we all felt like we were. Why is it so hard to give advice you would have liked to have because you've been there and know how it feels? Or where you simply born an experienced wise adult?
Or maybe you think that if you simply tell a young boy or girl not to have romantic feelings for the opposite sex, they won't because that worked with you when you were young?
2006-12-21 03:21:24 · 5 answers · asked by Chris D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some forget, some never experienced it at that age, some are fearful or concerned, and others just don't want to see them hurt and do remember the pain of it at such a young age. It's all so new to the young and they really are not emotionally equipped to handle it. Trust me on this one...they do care....
Well, that's my best shot and I hope you can understand it...from an old person.
2006-12-21 03:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd agree with TheOne. I'm barely an adult but even being young myself, it's hard to tell someone younger what to do with their life. A lot of these situations, are new because of how the world is today. It is easier to tell them to not like the opposite sex because it will keep them out of trouble. If a 12 yr ask for advice because they're "in love" with a 20+ something yr old, what else will you say. Teens are rebelious and if you try and tell them it's not really love or that they could get hurt, how many of them are going to really listen if it's not what they want to hear. I don't think the adults are acting like they never had a young romance, but a lot of them know that someone that young is going to listen to what they want to hear not what's best for them. And that's probably best, because you can't shelter young people. They need to make mistakes and learn for them, because otherwise they don't end up with the knowledge to teach their kids what not to do.
2006-12-21 11:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think we were born experienced wise adults. I thik it has more to do w/ protecting you f/ the experiences we've had. Not wanting you to learn the hard way the way we did. Though I am not saying I agree w/ that line of thinking. I believe that my children will learn f/ my mistakes. At least I hope that they do, so they don't have to learn it the hard way. I try to be as honest as I can w/ my chilren, w/o hurting them, emotionally. I just caution you to be careful, b/c those young hormones can cause you trouble, if you aren't. Is that helpful to you? Hope so.
2006-12-21 11:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by ksueditz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, that's fine. But when WE were young, we didn't have the internet to ask "strangers" what to do. These kids aren't living their lives and learning through trial and error. MOST of these things can NOT be summed up in a few words. Most situations are too complicated to even be fully explained. This just isn't the place for it. They need to talk to an older sibling or trusted adult who KNOWS them. Knows their details. Got it?
2006-12-21 11:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by Doug Church 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably cuz adults know how much trouble things can be if young teens get romantic, or involved above their head. It could be a "been there, done that" thing, that they don't want young teens to go through.
2006-12-21 11:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by Weston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋