Hi, I have known my boyfriend for 7 years, we went to high school together and hung out all the time.. I went away to the military for 2 years and came back... one year after that we started hanging out again and then became bf/gf. He had changed a little and one thing I noticed is that he is always gloating about how pretty he is and all this other stuff... I feel like he plays little games sometimes.. when he knows I am calling him and he doesn't pick up the phone.. I think he does it to make me wonder about him more. I have also been with people in the past that are pretty decent communicators, but it seems like with him...he communicates in the strangest way... says he's absolutely fine with me doing something or another, and he sounds really sincere... but in all actuality, he can't stand the thought of me doing it.. he just doesn't want me to know! I think he's really afraid of me losing intrest in him and that's why he plays his unavailable games ...and does other stuff.
2006-12-21 03:19:44 · 8 answers · asked by underwaterer1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has told me a couple times that he has learned that he can never let a gal know how he truly feels because when she does, she'll lose intrest or act in another way.. i forget what he said.. but anyway... he has said little things like "I can see you and me together for a looong time.. like getting old"... it's always short and simple, but I know he's trying to hide it so much. BTW, he's been trying to be with me ever since high school and I always turned him down..now I finally feel the same way about him.
2006-12-21 03:23:56 · update #1
I heard from his sister that he was upset that I was hanging out with some of my guy friends that he knew really liked me and wanted to hook up with me. But he acted like it didn't bother him the slightest bit. I ensured him that I wasn't intrested in any of them, they were just friends and that was the truth.
2006-12-21 03:50:35 · update #2
Okay, it was a friendship the beginning. So you know him Better than anyone. How was he with his past gf's? You have known this guy for seven yrs. So the questions that you should ask yourself are? Was he always this way before? What makes you think that he might be insecure? It could be a combination of different things. Take from the friends prospective, place yourself in he's shoes. That way you might be able to work on the fact that if he is insecure, to make him feel secure. Sometimes men have troubles expressing their emotions. So make it easier for him to express he's concerns. You hold the answer to you question. Good Luck
2006-12-21 03:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by sheriff groupie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend is still a boy. Youve been in the military which means your mentality has stepped up alot since when you first met him. Sounds to me like hes still about the games and isnt planning on growing up any time soon. I dont wanna tell you wrong but maybe you should compare the way he acts now to the way he acted when yall first met. Compare pros and cons in the relationship and ask yourself is it worth it. Cause any guy who expects you to run after his *** and is playing hard to get after 7 years is either not ready for the level commitment you want or not worth it. If his communication is bad and he acts mad when you do certain things and hes not pickin up his phone when you call hes either cheating on you or dont wanna be bothered but like i said i dont wanna fill your head with lies. He might just be a lil kid in a mans body.
2006-12-21 11:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by meka g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just keep an eye on his integrity. You are making all this speculation "sounds really sincere... but in all actuality, he can't stand the thought of me doing it.. " Did he tell you that or did he change his mind later or what....If he changes his mind later then definately low integrity and most likely insecure. But that sounds more like your own speculation. " I think he does it to make me wonder about him more."
He really could be either way, from what you are saying, self-confident or insecure.
2006-12-21 11:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look like he felt insecure, you should comunicate with him about ur feeling & tell him how u feel about him.
& if things really doesnt work out then the last result should consider break up. if u like someone but things hav makes u feel unhappy there is no point to continue. Unless u can sacrifice urself. asked him out & hav a good talk with him.
2006-12-21 22:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by kiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very insecure to me.
2006-12-21 11:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confident or insecure? Neither, he's a j@ck@ss - dump him..
2006-12-21 11:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he really is unavailable at times, or doesn't want to be bothered by you.
2006-12-21 11:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he lacks confidence and is very insecure
2006-12-21 11:23:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋