I spilt with my boyfriend of 6 months last week after he was having doubts and also cheated on me twice. When we met last week (on the day I found out he cheated from his ex-girlfriend!), I gave him the diamond ring he gave me back saying it would be too painful and upsetting to wear. He was upset I gave it back but took it.
We're meeting up tomorrow night for dinner as he wants to give me my Christmas Presents (I already gave him his last week). I was hoping there might be a chance of reconciliation and that we could work through things but I'm realising that I'm fooling myself - he doesn't love me and just wants to move on.
But I've been thinking this week and I would like the ring back. He gave it to me because it was a sign of his commitment to me at that time, am I wrong to want that memory still if I need to move on?
Does this make any sense to anyone else?!
2006-12-21 03:18:20 · 13 answers · asked by imalandamcuteasabutton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He gave you the ring, Its YOURS. You gave it back, It's HIS. Let him have it. If he wants to give it back to you, he will. If not, don't worry about it. Move on.
2006-12-21 03:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you want something to remember him by, however, you gave back the ring! But, do you really want to remember some guy that cheated on you? He is not worth it sweetie!!! I do not understand why you are giving each other gifts! When you break up with someone, usually there is a good reason. And, breaking up means it's over...that is it!!! Move on and forget the ring! Find someone who is going to treat you better than this and there might be a better ring involved!!!
2006-12-21 11:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was an engagement ring and only for that purpose you did the right thing giving it back. If there was also a birthday or other event tied in with it you were under no obligation to give it back.
If you want it, just to have it...go ahead ask for it back. What's the worst that could happen? Blow a mouth full of food hitting you in the chest as he breaks out in uproarious laughter...maybe?
2006-12-21 11:28:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually if the girl breaks off the engagement she gives the ring back, if the guy breaks if off, she keeps it. So even though he cheated, it sounds like you broke off the relationship, so based on that- you did the right thing to give it back. And if the relationship cannot be resurrected, I'd say leave it with him, as the memory of a fleeting committment will fade with time, and will lose significance.
2006-12-21 11:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes sense, but you may not be thinking clearly on this issue. The guy cheated on you already so it's not likely he'll develop new character traits and start placing value on loyalty or fidelity. As far as the ring, I think he's entitled to get it back if you aren't going to marry him. It's natural that you miss him and the relationship, but you need to re-evaluate your reasons for wanting to reconcile. I'd stand him up on the dinner date just to make myself feel better if it were me and I wouldn't care what christmas presents he wanted to give me. That would make him wonder what was up with you, now wouldn't it?! good luck
2006-12-21 11:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him - you gave the ring back which is what etiquette dictates. Why on earth would you want to keep a ring from someone who cheated on you?
2006-12-21 11:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you want the ring back again? A sign of his what...? The only thing that ring will end up reminding you of is a painful period in your life.
2006-12-21 12:24:09 · answer #7 · answered by gbgnick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...give up on wanting that ring back. Why would you want a ring from someone who hurt you so badly? Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-12-21 11:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soo you are having dinner to make mends--well the fact is he might not want the ring either--after all he did give it to you --but you did give it back--Its not going to hurt to ask for it back all he can say is no--we all make mistakes when we are angry tell him that --and tell him you want it for sentimental reasons
2006-12-21 11:30:43 · answer #9 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him keep it because he is going to get it back for all the bad things he have done to you!
2006-12-21 11:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋